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Son diagnosed does not want to share

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I expect many of you will have some knowledge or experience. My 11 year old was diagnosed last week, afterwards I suggested he speak with his Dad to let him know how the appointment went and my son asked me to keep it between the two of us. He agreed I could tell his school SENDCO but nobody else in the family.  I would like the benefit of peoples experience here as I do not want to break his trust yet important people in our lives and my son will benefit from them knowing how to relate to him. I’ve broached telling Grandparents and friends again however the request to keep to ourselves is the same. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. 

thank you 

Parents

  • As an adult who self diagnosed and then got told by my family I'd had a clinical disgnosis as a child it took me a few weeks to digest the idea before I wanted to tell anyone. He may need some time too.

    Reading the books All Cats have Autism and Inside Autism Looking Out with him are good ways to open up talking about it more and getting used to it as being his normal.

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  • As an adult who self diagnosed and then got told by my family I'd had a clinical disgnosis as a child it took me a few weeks to digest the idea before I wanted to tell anyone. He may need some time too.

    Reading the books All Cats have Autism and Inside Autism Looking Out with him are good ways to open up talking about it more and getting used to it as being his normal.

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  • in reply to Mark (NicheMarket)

    I didn't think to say that my mother tried telling me about my diagnosis when I was about 10 or 11. It didn't make sense to me because I hadn't recognised my problems came from me being different. I struggled with a lot, inc school, scholol kids, people, but to me the problem seemed to be with them. I don't think I'd have wanted people to know either, I was struggling as it was without being marked out as different, although of course that could have helped.