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School Problems

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Hi, My Name is Nicola and My Daughter Emylee ,5, was diagnosed ASD in Sept 12. Emylees teacher in reception was very supportive and helped alot when we were going through the diagnosis but since Emylee has been in year 1 with her new teacher I dont feel so happy. Emylee was doing well in all subjects last year but this year she is below on maths and not so able in others, the teacher says shes not concerned but I am. What if my little girl is sat there struggling to understand? Her teacher says shes doesnt need a statement as she doesnt need removing from class and she doesnt need a IEP as she doesnt call out in class?! Emylee is a quiet girl and I am concerned she may not be causing enough 'problems' for her teacher to get her help. Emylee struggled a great deal before christmas due to school routines being changed and she didnt understand the nativity play practise. She hardly slept during the week and was tired at school, her teacher said Emylee 'went into a world of her own' so she (as adviced by the SENCO) put Emylee in a classroom alone with the lights off for a few hours. I was later told this happened a few times. I eventually refused for Emylee to participate in the play and her teacher told me not to take her into school on the days of the performances as they didnt have alternative care. I feel like we've got passed the hard part of a diagnosis but now the school doesnt want to take notice.

Does anyone has any ideas or experiences that may help or am I just being over protective? Thanks.  

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  • puffin said:

    Hello again,

    Firstly you didn't sound cheesy, you sound like a loving mum doing what is best for her child.  I hope your meeting went well, bringing your mum along sounded like a good idea.  I am not very confident and do have to push myself for my son , did you see my mail in the introducing yourself section recently?  Geai my son had an upsetting day yesterday and i struggle what to do for the best at times.

    With regards school drop offs in Nursery the Nursery teacher settled him in P1 it was me.  HIS nursery teacher was lovely calm always smiling, not his P1 teacher shouted alot at class not much of a smiler, and Geai needs that reassuring smile to know what someone is thinking.   At present he travels on a school bus (only 5 OTHER CHILDREN) , but when i was going in with him last year he came with me in the car and he knew i was there to help the teacher not him (in theory), i was really only there for him!  we would meet each other about the school whilst i helped or made a display in the hall, and he would give me such a huge smile his teacher said she noticed him relaxing a bit when i was there.  i always brought him in if he asked maybe twice a week for about five months!  then slowly i reduced my time there saying the teacher had no jobs for me.  Now at present, he has not asked me to go to the school for the last 3 months, it used to take him along time 2-3 weeks to settle again after a holiday or absence, what i started doing was before he went back to school i invited friends around for play dates one at a time, only the two or three he really feels comfortable with and that really seemed to help the transistion back to schoolSmile 

    i wonder if Emylee is getting IBS (irritable bowel syndrome, tummy pains) due to the stress, i get that sometimes.

    Hope all went well at the meeting is it a big school? how many in her class, my son has a mixed class P12&3.

    take care

    Theresa 

    Hi Again,

    There is around 25 children in Emylees class. The meeting wasnt great to be honest. They have finally decided to do an individual timetable for her and she will be able to bring it home so we can go through it before school. Her teacher also agreed to daily updates of how Emylee was but neither has been done yet. The SENCo said Emylee will get extra support without a statement as a statement cost the government too much! Its around £25000 during a childs school career. I think thats an awful thing to say, my family all work and pay taxes so why should she not get what is needed?! I have never seen or been told about any extra help she receives. Yesterday Emylee had 4 different teachers, is it just me or is that not right?

    I did read your message and I get the same most days. Im actually getting extreme headaches all day due to worrying about how her days going. I think it doesnt help that they dont inform me during or even after about any problems. That is awful that they were allowed to play with the sledges in the snow! How dangerous. My daughters school didnt allow them to play outside as it was so cold and dangerous. I can only imagine how upset he was, I know Emylee would be distraught if she was told of particularly by someone she didnt know. You should approach the mother and tell her that your son has a condition and in future you would like her to either try to talk to your son or to you. That is another reason I tell everyone about Emylee as I wouldnt want somebody to upset her. 

    Sorry for the delay in response and I hope things have been getting easier. 

    Take care

    Nicola

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  • puffin said:

    Hello again,

    Firstly you didn't sound cheesy, you sound like a loving mum doing what is best for her child.  I hope your meeting went well, bringing your mum along sounded like a good idea.  I am not very confident and do have to push myself for my son , did you see my mail in the introducing yourself section recently?  Geai my son had an upsetting day yesterday and i struggle what to do for the best at times.

    With regards school drop offs in Nursery the Nursery teacher settled him in P1 it was me.  HIS nursery teacher was lovely calm always smiling, not his P1 teacher shouted alot at class not much of a smiler, and Geai needs that reassuring smile to know what someone is thinking.   At present he travels on a school bus (only 5 OTHER CHILDREN) , but when i was going in with him last year he came with me in the car and he knew i was there to help the teacher not him (in theory), i was really only there for him!  we would meet each other about the school whilst i helped or made a display in the hall, and he would give me such a huge smile his teacher said she noticed him relaxing a bit when i was there.  i always brought him in if he asked maybe twice a week for about five months!  then slowly i reduced my time there saying the teacher had no jobs for me.  Now at present, he has not asked me to go to the school for the last 3 months, it used to take him along time 2-3 weeks to settle again after a holiday or absence, what i started doing was before he went back to school i invited friends around for play dates one at a time, only the two or three he really feels comfortable with and that really seemed to help the transistion back to schoolSmile 

    i wonder if Emylee is getting IBS (irritable bowel syndrome, tummy pains) due to the stress, i get that sometimes.

    Hope all went well at the meeting is it a big school? how many in her class, my son has a mixed class P12&3.

    take care

    Theresa 

    Hi Again,

    There is around 25 children in Emylees class. The meeting wasnt great to be honest. They have finally decided to do an individual timetable for her and she will be able to bring it home so we can go through it before school. Her teacher also agreed to daily updates of how Emylee was but neither has been done yet. The SENCo said Emylee will get extra support without a statement as a statement cost the government too much! Its around £25000 during a childs school career. I think thats an awful thing to say, my family all work and pay taxes so why should she not get what is needed?! I have never seen or been told about any extra help she receives. Yesterday Emylee had 4 different teachers, is it just me or is that not right?

    I did read your message and I get the same most days. Im actually getting extreme headaches all day due to worrying about how her days going. I think it doesnt help that they dont inform me during or even after about any problems. That is awful that they were allowed to play with the sledges in the snow! How dangerous. My daughters school didnt allow them to play outside as it was so cold and dangerous. I can only imagine how upset he was, I know Emylee would be distraught if she was told of particularly by someone she didnt know. You should approach the mother and tell her that your son has a condition and in future you would like her to either try to talk to your son or to you. That is another reason I tell everyone about Emylee as I wouldnt want somebody to upset her. 

    Sorry for the delay in response and I hope things have been getting easier. 

    Take care

    Nicola

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