toiletting

Hi, I can't offer any quick fixes but heres some of my experience... my first son I toilet trained in one week a month off his 3rd birthday.  He's now 6.  I started with my second son a bit earlier 2 1/2 as he's an August baby and wanted to see if we could do it before he started nursery. Tried twice before summer hols but he just screamed the place down all the time so I didn't push it.  Nursery said they'd accept him in pull-ups but changed their mind when we got there - he was wet everyday and pretty much refused to go near the loo.  After few weeks and chat with school nurse they let him use pull-ups again - just not ready.  It took another year to get any real progress  but he went into Reception still having lots of accidents (wet & soiling) and school asked me to have him home in the afternoons until he could be clean for a week (he's nearly 5 1/2 now and still can't be clean for a week!).  Due to other stuff we were noticing about his behaviour I suggested to school perhaps he may have an ASD so their SENCO observed him and agreed.  He was diagnosed with Aspergers a few weeks ago.  Toileting is still an issue.

Strategies that have helped are: entering into his world - playing funny games like closing my eyes and jumping when I hear a plop in the loo.  Putting dinosaur cards in the loo and seeing if he'd like to go and see which one it was (to get him in there).  At school they gave him a couple of dinosuars who had to visit the Teaching Assistant if he wanted to use loo etc.  We have a reward system which he has a say in the reward but some days the chance of a reward still won't get him in the loo, no amount of encouraging will by pass his 'stubborn-ness'.  It's still all a bit hit and miss - v frustrating and time consuming sorting it all out.

The main thing I'd say is be prepared for the long haul but try and map progress as you may start to notice that there are v small steps - it may just click one day, who knows.  The other thing for me is that I am generally better at taking each day as it comes (but not perfect!).  Age 3 1/2 seems v early days from my experience

Hi, I can't offer any quick fixes but heres some of my experience... my first son I toilet trained in one week a month off his 3rd birthday.  He's now 6.  I started with my second son a bit earlier 2 1/2 as he's an August baby and wanted to see if we could do it before he started nursery. Tried twice before summer hols but he just screamed the place down all the time so I didn't push it.  Nursery said they'd accept him in pull-ups but changed their mind when we got there - he was wet everyday and pretty much refused to go near the loo.  After few weeks and chat with school nurse they let him use pull-ups again - just not ready.  It took another year to get any real progress  but he went into Reception still having lots of accidents (wet & soiling) and school asked me to have him home in the afternoons until he could be clean for a week (he's nearly 5 1/2 now and still can't be clean for a week!).  Due to other stuff we were noticing about his behaviour I suggested to school perhaps he may have an ASD so their SENCO observed him and agreed.  He was diagnosed with Aspergers a few weeks ago.  Toileting is still an issue.

Strategies that have helped are: entering into his world - playing funny games like closing my eyes and jumping when I hear a plop in the loo.  Putting dinosaur cards in the loo and seeing if he'd like to go and see which one it was (to get him in there).  At school they gave him a couple of dinosuars who had to visit the Teaching Assistant if he wanted to use loo etc.  We have a reward system which he has a say in the reward but some days the chance of a reward still won't get him in the loo, no amount of encouraging will by pass his 'stubborn-ness'.  It's still all a bit hit and miss - v frustrating and time consuming sorting it all out.

The main thing I'd say is be prepared for the long haul but try and map progress as you may start to notice that there are v small steps - it may just click one day, who knows.  The other thing for me is that I am generally better at taking each day as it comes (but not perfect!).  Age 3 1/2 seems v early days from my experience