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Christmas

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Hi! My Son has just turned 4 and was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 2.4yrs. He has very limited speech but loves the company of other children. I find Christmas quite hard as he won't open presents and doesn't really understand anything about the day. I see all of his cousins getting excited, hanging up their stockings and talking about Father Christmas and sometimes this makes me feel sad that my son doesn't have the same magical feelings as they do. I was wondering how everyone else finds Christmas and what you do to make it special for your child?

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  • hi - do what works for him, you'll all be happier as a result.   My son's always been into getting presents he wants (not what other people think he shd have!).  He also enjoys the food aspect!  He doesn't see the "magic" of Christmas.  When he was little I tended to do what other parents do, but some of it didn't work for him + as you say you can feel sad.  Over the yrs I've stopped trying to put how I feel on to him, if you know what I mean.  These are my issues, not his.  Christmas throws up all sorts of expectations for anyone, whether on the autistic spectrum or not + quite often people are disappointed, whoever, wherever they are.  My son doesn't want a traditional xmas dinner...so what?  He knows what he wants to do on xmas day so we fit in with that....no pressure for any of us.  It takes time to adjust.  A lot of people conform to what xmas shd be....whatever that is.  Who needs the hassle?  bw

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  • hi - do what works for him, you'll all be happier as a result.   My son's always been into getting presents he wants (not what other people think he shd have!).  He also enjoys the food aspect!  He doesn't see the "magic" of Christmas.  When he was little I tended to do what other parents do, but some of it didn't work for him + as you say you can feel sad.  Over the yrs I've stopped trying to put how I feel on to him, if you know what I mean.  These are my issues, not his.  Christmas throws up all sorts of expectations for anyone, whether on the autistic spectrum or not + quite often people are disappointed, whoever, wherever they are.  My son doesn't want a traditional xmas dinner...so what?  He knows what he wants to do on xmas day so we fit in with that....no pressure for any of us.  It takes time to adjust.  A lot of people conform to what xmas shd be....whatever that is.  Who needs the hassle?  bw

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