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grandparents and husband don't recognise or understand autism

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My son was diagnosed at 8 with HFA and tourettes.  I get no support from my parents and husband none of them understand him and show no interest in even trying to understand.  Even though he has a diagnosis they still blame on parenting on the way he behaves around them.  They have never offered any support as they think he can choose how he behaves.  He is  now 12 and understands that he is not liked so has started to behave even worse (purposely!!!).  To cut a ,long story short - my dad has advanced cancer and finds it really hard spending time with us because my son is so naughty.  It upsets them both the way that my son talks to me and have said today until I sort his behaviour they will not be able to see us.    They have two new step grandchildren now who they adore two  girls of 3 and 4 and constantly say that   **** and ***** are so well behaved.  I am now wondering if maybe it is my parenting that has made him this way..  I have always done what I thought was right and in my opinion he isn't naughty.  I have tried getting them to understand but they have no interest - they just blame him and me.  What can I do??  I have never been able to access any behaviour courses as no one will look after him for me.  

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  • tourettes tip 

    i used to work right beside a computer programmer who had tourettes --- He would say "F*ck" You, "bas*ard"  towards his screen when he made mistakes which would upset people walking past. Some would report him / confront him.  He may have brightened up my day but upsetting people really upset him.

    In a discussion with him I came up with the idea of him cursing in another language so I taught him to curse in italian,french, and spanish. We practised quite a bit which was fun Innocent

    after some time his curses where mostly in other languages so very few people took offence :)

    This guy I am talking about was a fully functioning as400 programmer who worked non-stop.

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  • tourettes tip 

    i used to work right beside a computer programmer who had tourettes --- He would say "F*ck" You, "bas*ard"  towards his screen when he made mistakes which would upset people walking past. Some would report him / confront him.  He may have brightened up my day but upsetting people really upset him.

    In a discussion with him I came up with the idea of him cursing in another language so I taught him to curse in italian,french, and spanish. We practised quite a bit which was fun Innocent

    after some time his curses where mostly in other languages so very few people took offence :)

    This guy I am talking about was a fully functioning as400 programmer who worked non-stop.

    Heart 

      

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