Hello, I am a 46 year old woman. My husband has autism and we have been married 14 years , together 16. We have 5 children. In March last year i started work full-time while my husband works from home (he has for 8 years). He met a woman online through a game and they would play together. Then on the 1st of March he started to speak to her on snapchat. I did not know this. He gave this woman a disused email address and my husband did not realise that it was linked to one of our older sons account. They had been having an intense friendship for about 5 weeks. I saw some of the comments and they were over the top and very personal, sending selfies of each other daily. I asked him to stop and he said no. To cut a long story short he stopped after 4 months and all contact stopped 4 months ago. My husband will not admit he had an emotional affair. He struggles to communicate with me. He disclosed to me at the same time that thoughout our marriage he has not been able to talk about his feelings and thoughts, mainly to avoid conflict or any hard conversations. He also believed that he could not talk to women because of a comment i made 7 years ago that was innocent about a dream i had. To now. My husband communicates better online. It is generally women because he seems to get on better. However, after this i am struggling. He also does not read social cues or norms and does not want to learn them. He says that he worries about his intention not what someone else may think. He also seems to attract needy/ damaged women. He is very miserable at the moment as i have asked him to have a break from online activity. I don't know how we move forward. He feels little guilt over the pain he cause me and cannot empathise at all.
