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When to contact CAMHS

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My daughter is 10, she is a lovely, kind, funny and very sharp young girl who was diagnosed with autism last year.  In addition, she bullies, attacks, spits, insults, throws, kicks and lashes out.  Since lockdown I am so pleased to see her ticks (neck thrashing, clucking, teeth grinding) has stopped since she is off school.... on the other hand she is distressed at this new normal and keeps asking 'to go home', says that she wants to die so others can live and has tried to run away.   She can cling to you, love you then despite you and want you to die.  She feels noone loves her and if I am honest at times her behaviors are hard to love..... but of course I love her.  She attacks and bullies her sister who is struggling as a result.  School is absent - its terrible,  child development team and school nurse had some contact after my emails and told me 'you are doing well'.   I know that I am but there are times I have said some awful things and I know this impacts on her self -esteem but it is impacting on my wellbeing now.   I am just simply desperate.   At times - it feels fine then it feels desperate - her bheaviours, emotions and reactions are all over the place.  

When is it ok to contact CAMHS, is this right for her or will it label her and leave her with a history - its such a huge responsibility.  I just feel I am failing her

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  • In my area you have to get a referral to CAHMS from the GP. My suggestion is to make an appointment for her at the doctor and go without her. It can take ages to be seen and I'd worry more about her mental health than a label. If you have a good GP they will advise you.

    CAHMS services can be mixed in terms of quality but if you're worried my opinion is it's got to be better to try something that just hope for the best. Remember this is the opinion of someone who doesn't know you or your daughter so trust your judgement.

    Tying your best for her us all you can do. With hindsight you may decide that whatever you did was not the best option but provided you did it to assist it's not failing. Not caring is not failing.

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  • In my area you have to get a referral to CAHMS from the GP. My suggestion is to make an appointment for her at the doctor and go without her. It can take ages to be seen and I'd worry more about her mental health than a label. If you have a good GP they will advise you.

    CAHMS services can be mixed in terms of quality but if you're worried my opinion is it's got to be better to try something that just hope for the best. Remember this is the opinion of someone who doesn't know you or your daughter so trust your judgement.

    Tying your best for her us all you can do. With hindsight you may decide that whatever you did was not the best option but provided you did it to assist it's not failing. Not caring is not failing.

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