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Hi all

i’m not really sure where to start with this, my son is 3 in 3 weeks and is still not talking. He has some words however very rarely uses this and needs to be encouraged to do this. He won’t just talk without you asking him to, he rarely plays with any toys and is really hard to keep entertained and to get him to focus. We seem to be on the path to an autism diagnosis and I’m just not sure how to cope with this, all the questions. Will he ever talk? Will he be able to live a normal life? Will he go to school and have friends. I never imagined this path when becoming a father and I’m just not sure how to cope with it all, sometimes I feel ok and think I can get through this with him and other times of jealous of other parents for what they have! I’d do anything to be able to have a conversation with my boy, share some interests and be able to do things together. Do I sound selfish? I’m just so scared of our future and what it holds I feel we should have everything to look forward to but that’s now robbed of us and I’m scared of what the future holds, sometimes I’m not sure how to carry on.

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  • Hi - You're going to go through a grieving process - you will have had all sorts of dreams for your son - good son, loads of friends, great job, married, 2.4 kids & a Labrador.     You will also blame yourself in case it's your fault.      All this is perfectly normal.        You need to understand his world - what he likes and what lights him up.         There's a good chance that he will surprise you - I was a very quiet child too.      I loved tv back then - it was my window to the world and I loved all the factual programmes (it was the late 60s / early 70s so the moon landings were happening).      I loved colourful encyclopedias with pictures of things from around the world - technology, nature etc.    

    What does your son like?

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  • Hi - You're going to go through a grieving process - you will have had all sorts of dreams for your son - good son, loads of friends, great job, married, 2.4 kids & a Labrador.     You will also blame yourself in case it's your fault.      All this is perfectly normal.        You need to understand his world - what he likes and what lights him up.         There's a good chance that he will surprise you - I was a very quiet child too.      I loved tv back then - it was my window to the world and I loved all the factual programmes (it was the late 60s / early 70s so the moon landings were happening).      I loved colourful encyclopedias with pictures of things from around the world - technology, nature etc.    

    What does your son like?

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