Need help and advice for 8 year olds aggressive behaviour

can anyone please give me advice ! Our 8 year  old in the past 6 months has become so angry he becomes quickly irritated and angry which leads to screaming hair pulling head whacking . I can ease him out of the meltdown but am so unsure how to deal with the discipline from the behaviour when it’s throwing things hurting his sister shouting go away etc . Sorry for long message it’s just breaking my heart .

  • Hi ,

    I'm sorry to hear that you son's behaviour has been difficult recently. Individuals on the spectrum can often display behaviour that may be challenging. There will generally be a reason for this and it is important to try and understand the trigger for the behaviour when developing strategies.

    You may like to have a look at the following link for more information on behaviour and strategies:

    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour.aspx

    You may be interested in seeking some professional support regarding the behaviour. You can search for professionals in your area we are aware of on the Autism Services Directory: www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx


    You may like to contact The Autism Helpline who can provide information and advice on behaviour and strategies. You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm). Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an advisor.

    I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod:)

  • It’s a tough one really - I’m not a parent so I can only advise on my personal experience and personal views (my godson was also autistic, as is my nephew - so I have a little insight) I think discipline is vital because if it goes unchallenged it can become normalised but at the same time it’s got to be balanced and targeted as in discipline should be for hurting his sister not because he’s having a meltdown if that makes sense? It’s a really fine balance between letting him know you understand he’s struggling and applying enough discipline that he learns he can’t just hurt people as and when he feels like it. That’s my views anyway.