help please our daughter won't leave her room and shouts at us if we engage with her

Hi,

Our 11 year old daughter is ASD and has an anxiety disorder. She hasn't been to school for months. We are in the process of trying to get her an EHPC to go to a special school which can provide for her needs. She's very bright. Our main problem is that she resists doing anything she doesn't want to do to the point that she won't leave her room. Getting her to eat is a problem since she's been on sertraline which has helped her anxiety but taken her appetite away. I've tried getting her to leave her room to eat but she'll literally not eat or drink all day so I end up taking food to her in her room facilitating her not leaving it but I feel like a bad parent if she's hungry and thirsty. She won't tidy her room but freaks out if I try to. She generally shouts at us every time we go in there. She locked herself in the bathroom for 7 hours the other day because we said she had to take a screen break. She's obviously unhappy but we also feel she manipulates us. We don't know where to turn or what strategies to try any more.  

Parents
  • just like to reply to you as i have a son with same problems will not leave room and eats and drinks there too. i have moments when he comes down, i find it hard to get him out of house and missed school for over a year. he has left with no exams co,s he would get aggressive and angry when raise voice and pressured into anything out of room. i am still no better off too, over time it has got a little better but i just like to say hang in there and your not alone he has autistic and sensory progressive disorder  

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  • just like to reply to you as i have a son with same problems will not leave room and eats and drinks there too. i have moments when he comes down, i find it hard to get him out of house and missed school for over a year. he has left with no exams co,s he would get aggressive and angry when raise voice and pressured into anything out of room. i am still no better off too, over time it has got a little better but i just like to say hang in there and your not alone he has autistic and sensory progressive disorder  

Children
  • Hi,

    I stopped getting notifications so didn't see your post. I hope things are better now? My daughter got her EHCP and into a special school which she also refused after a while. She's just started having a tutor come to us 2 days a week who was a teacher at the school she knows so things have improved and I she's happier but still spends almost all her time in her room.