fed up.

HappyDays said:

hi everyone,

im sooo fed up at the moment. its just one thing after another, after another. im sick up to the back teeth of problems related to school. most recently my daughter at special school seems to be having problems with a teaching assistant, who just dosnt seem to understand Autism very well, and the difficulties my daughter has, ive had to phone the school to sort things out before they get out of hand. im gutted really we as a family with other autistic chidren have always had problems with settings but i thought this one was ok. eldest daughter having a nightmare at her school, bullies etc i have one boy at home and i just cant find a setting suitable, was looking at an autism specific but reading their policys put me off, apparantly if you have a problem with the way the school deals with somthing the school will look into it however if you are not satisfied with the outcome, the school can refuse to investigate further and if you continue to complain they will do you for harassment.?.not good if you genuinly feel the school is wrong. i usually keep plodding on but im just not myself at the moment, at an apointment last week with my daughter someone suggested somthing to me that has knocked me off course a bit. My family has disowned us becsuse they cant cope with us all, and i dont have friends i dont really do friends, and those i do get dont hang around for long. im just fed up. will anything ever go right?

a 'special school' whgich has teachers who dont understand the needs of its pupils is something to be addressed whether they want you to or not, you have every right to complain and take this further, and i dont mean to the school i mean to anyone above the school,  mps etc

this IS a matter for you to take to people who can actually change this. an dif the school refuse to and are even threatening you for trying to get them to listen and actually do their job, then you have every right to do that, you have given them every chance to listen and help

they have been absolutely disgusting about it, and that itself is another thing to put to the mp

if you feel your children are somehow suffering emotionally because of the treatment of this school and their refusal to deal with it you do NOT plod on, you go take action

i am sorry to hear about your family, autism isnt an easy issue to live with for many people and for some they just cant do it, and i do understand that, but i cant say i feel much respect for those who disown their family because of it when its no ones fault and you must NOT feel any guilt or blame on your part, because this is not your fault, it is just something thats happened and some cant deal with it, you dont get that choice, they do, and they used it.

so as hard as it sounds, you  have to forget about them and just focus on yourself and your family and the problems you face on this issue

will it ever go right, this is not an easy thing to answer, because i think most of society isnt 'right' especially with this kind of serious issue,  so i dont think it will go right in that sense,

but can you make it better for you and your family,

YES, but its a lot of hard work 

HappyDays said:

hi everyone,

im sooo fed up at the moment. its just one thing after another, after another. im sick up to the back teeth of problems related to school. most recently my daughter at special school seems to be having problems with a teaching assistant, who just dosnt seem to understand Autism very well, and the difficulties my daughter has, ive had to phone the school to sort things out before they get out of hand. im gutted really we as a family with other autistic chidren have always had problems with settings but i thought this one was ok. eldest daughter having a nightmare at her school, bullies etc i have one boy at home and i just cant find a setting suitable, was looking at an autism specific but reading their policys put me off, apparantly if you have a problem with the way the school deals with somthing the school will look into it however if you are not satisfied with the outcome, the school can refuse to investigate further and if you continue to complain they will do you for harassment.?.not good if you genuinly feel the school is wrong. i usually keep plodding on but im just not myself at the moment, at an apointment last week with my daughter someone suggested somthing to me that has knocked me off course a bit. My family has disowned us becsuse they cant cope with us all, and i dont have friends i dont really do friends, and those i do get dont hang around for long. im just fed up. will anything ever go right?

a 'special school' whgich has teachers who dont understand the needs of its pupils is something to be addressed whether they want you to or not, you have every right to complain and take this further, and i dont mean to the school i mean to anyone above the school,  mps etc

this IS a matter for you to take to people who can actually change this. an dif the school refuse to and are even threatening you for trying to get them to listen and actually do their job, then you have every right to do that, you have given them every chance to listen and help

they have been absolutely disgusting about it, and that itself is another thing to put to the mp

if you feel your children are somehow suffering emotionally because of the treatment of this school and their refusal to deal with it you do NOT plod on, you go take action

i am sorry to hear about your family, autism isnt an easy issue to live with for many people and for some they just cant do it, and i do understand that, but i cant say i feel much respect for those who disown their family because of it when its no ones fault and you must NOT feel any guilt or blame on your part, because this is not your fault, it is just something thats happened and some cant deal with it, you dont get that choice, they do, and they used it.

so as hard as it sounds, you  have to forget about them and just focus on yourself and your family and the problems you face on this issue

will it ever go right, this is not an easy thing to answer, because i think most of society isnt 'right' especially with this kind of serious issue,  so i dont think it will go right in that sense,

but can you make it better for you and your family,

YES, but its a lot of hard work