In desperate need of advice from other parents

Hello,

My husband and I are deeply concerned about our nearly 4 year old son who got his ASD diagnosis at the start of this year. He has been in a special nursery for the last 12 months which has been fantastic and we do have support. Gabriel's main problem has been speech delay/sleep problems and aside from the odd quirky tic, we would have never classed him as being severe ASD or had any major reason to worry. His speech has since improved and we are using daily visual charts to help him feel secure.

His autism has always been more pronounced when he's ill, which is why over a month ago when he started playing up, we presumed he was coming down with something. However he isn't ill and we have no idea why our beautiful little boy has had a complete personality transplant in the last 4 weeks.

Firstly, he is OBSESSED with me, (mummy), he is literally my shadow at the minute and is completely shunning his dad which is really upsetting for my husband. I am currently 6 months pregnant, so to be solely relied on 24/7 when his behaviour is so terrible is really affecting my health and im worried for my unborn daughter. Gabriel is also physically very rough. He is screaming all the time, shouting, we have had to apologise to the neighbours in fear that they think we are abusing him. His nursery workers have also expressed concern as he is playing up at nursery. He is shunning his grandparents who he absolutely adores so we can't even get a break anymore. He just wants me all the time and screams if anyone else (mainly male) approaches him. 

He has also been "stimming" an awful lot more compared to what he used to, he had a solid 30 minutes sat in his bed the other night, twisting his arms, doing weird things with his face and making growling noises. His eyes were glazed over and he just wasn't there. It was horrific to watch. He is always repeating things what people have said to him, particularly things like "no gabriel, stop" or "sit down gabriel, enough" All things that we and his nursery workers say to him to try and discipline him but he isn't responding to discipline, which is so frustrating.

Does anybody have any insight whatsoever as to why our little boy has gone from the usually calm, content lad he was to this super-stressed stranger? I suspected it was to do with my pregnancy but my husband disagrees as Gabriel pays no notice to the fact that we're having another baby and seems to be a bit oblivious. He is also barely eating so I wonder whether diet plays a part.

Many thanks in advance,

Emma.

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  • Hi,

    We are going through a similar situation.  We could normally 'control' her 'meltdowns', but lately she is stressed all of the time, and very unhappy with everybody and everything.  Our usual calming measures are having no affect at all.

    Her portage worker thinks that possibly, because she has made a few small developments lately (starting to make vowel sounds, purposely make marks on paper etc), she is feeling overwhelmed by all this new information she is having to process, so she is more aware of everything that she would normally block out.

    It IS just a possibility.  I would just give him time, and if things don't improve after a few weeks seek further advice.  I know that's difficult, especially given your pregnancy, but hang in there. 

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  • Hi,

    We are going through a similar situation.  We could normally 'control' her 'meltdowns', but lately she is stressed all of the time, and very unhappy with everybody and everything.  Our usual calming measures are having no affect at all.

    Her portage worker thinks that possibly, because she has made a few small developments lately (starting to make vowel sounds, purposely make marks on paper etc), she is feeling overwhelmed by all this new information she is having to process, so she is more aware of everything that she would normally block out.

    It IS just a possibility.  I would just give him time, and if things don't improve after a few weeks seek further advice.  I know that's difficult, especially given your pregnancy, but hang in there. 

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