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Did i cause my childs autism

NAS66123

I have a 4yo girl diagnosed with autism.

I just cant help but think it is my fault that she has autism. When she was a baby and had only just began to roll she accidently rolled off our bed on to a hard floor. 

I feel like this is the reason she may have it as all her blood tests came back as normal.

I have never voiced this concern before as i am so ashamed. I cry about it all the time. I havent said it even to my husband. 

But i worry that maybe i should talk to my childs doctor about it or voice this to a professional. I just dont know how im going to ever say it out loud. But feel like i need to for my daughters sake.

I dont really know what im asking i just hit a low point with it and know i nees help! 

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  • Hi Nas66123

    I have two older children diagnosed and one younger child going through diagnosis. 

    Having children diagnosed with autism is stressful for many parents, it's a whole new and sometimes scary world.

    It's normal for a parent to feel "was it my fault" I know when my eldest was first diagnosed that's how I felt.

    "what did I do?" "could it have been that?"

    It's totally normal to feel that way. 

    But autism is something that isn't caused by knocks to the head as I've been told it's something that they are born with, something that has been there way before we even noticed the first signs.

    Try not to beat yourself up about the situation. I had a similar situation with my middle son where he had an infected chicken pox and developed cellulitis and we almost lost him. I always wondered if I hadn't of let him play in the garden around the mud that day maybe it wouldn't have happened and did it cause the autism. But I didn't cause it, it was just something that happened and thankfully he made a full recovery.

    Keep telling yourself you didn't cause the autism, a knock on the head cannot cause it. 

    Hope that helps 

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  • Hi Nas66123

    I have two older children diagnosed and one younger child going through diagnosis. 

    Having children diagnosed with autism is stressful for many parents, it's a whole new and sometimes scary world.

    It's normal for a parent to feel "was it my fault" I know when my eldest was first diagnosed that's how I felt.

    "what did I do?" "could it have been that?"

    It's totally normal to feel that way. 

    But autism is something that isn't caused by knocks to the head as I've been told it's something that they are born with, something that has been there way before we even noticed the first signs.

    Try not to beat yourself up about the situation. I had a similar situation with my middle son where he had an infected chicken pox and developed cellulitis and we almost lost him. I always wondered if I hadn't of let him play in the garden around the mud that day maybe it wouldn't have happened and did it cause the autism. But I didn't cause it, it was just something that happened and thankfully he made a full recovery.

    Keep telling yourself you didn't cause the autism, a knock on the head cannot cause it. 

    Hope that helps 

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