Published on 12, July, 2020
My 13 year old son's violent meltdowns are getting worse
I am still sore a week after the last one. He hasn't laid a hand on me but throws everything and anything at me, boots, scissors, mugs anything that's in reach. He also self harms during the meltdown.
I do what they say and dont shout and try to calm him. He refuses to talk about it a day or so later once everything is calm but he wont discuss it and shuts down. He wont even try to take himself out the situation or go to his room to calm down.
He is now not engaging with the child psychologist, wont talk to anyone about his feelings.
I'm at a loss and feeling really low as I cant find a way to help him.
Anyone else going through this or have any advice how to get him to find away to not lash out?? Any online support groups for struggling parents?
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Hello NAS39314, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through some hard times with your son.
We have a page on our website that centres around physical challenging behaviour. Including the possible causes, as well as strategies and interventions you can adopt to improve his behaviour:
http://www.autism.org.uk/about/behaviour/challenging-behaviour.aspx
You may find it useful to have a look at our behaviour guidelines and general behaviour page:
http://www.autism.org.uk/about/behaviour/guidelines.aspx
http://www.autism.org.uk/about/behaviour.aspx
You may also like to contact Young Minds https://youngminds.org.uk who are the UK's leading charity regarding children and young people's mental health and wellbeing. They have a helpline offering confidential support to anyone concerned about the emotional problems or behaviour of a child or young person. Their Helpline number is 0808 802 5544.
If you have any more queries, you may like to contact our Autism Helpline team.
You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm).Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an advisor.