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Worried about son’s possible diagnosis

NAS65806

Hi. I have a 7 year son. I’ve always thought there was something different about him but didn’t think it was an issue. Since nursery he’s had tics which usually last a few weeks then fade away. Recently he’s been throat clearing a lot.

The other day at school parents evening the teacher said she thinks theres something sensory going on with him but doesn’t know what so I should take him to the dr.

I’m worried he is on the autistic spectrum and what this means for his future. He has friends and makes eye contract so it’s maybe not that but I’m still worried. At school he struggles to concentrate and his writing and drawing is poor.

Just looking for some reassurance really and and advice on what the future might hold if it is that. 

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  • Unknown said:
    it sounds like your views are based on outdated stereotypes

    It is understandable that you are worried as a parent. Of course you want the right thing for your child and scary words are  well scary. But this is because of stereotyped meaning part of society assigns to those words. NAS50301 is spot on. 

    Your son is who he is, if it means he is autistic, he is still exactly the same child and the future is open to him in every way. Most limitations for autistic people comes from endemic ableism in society. Not from autism.

    At this stage it is very important for you as a parent to carefully choose your sources of information about autism and disability generally. The ableist tragedy brigade is not going to help you and even less your child. He will grow up and will have his life to live, he will want a job and a relationship, he will want to be accepted and respected for who he is, his difference appreciated as part of the rich human diversity.  If he is autistic, the ableist stereotypes are not going to help him. You need to be on his side.

    On a practical level take the hints from the school and start compiling a case for his referral to the pediatrician/CAMHS and for the Education Health and Care Plan assessment. You are very lucky that the school is supportive and are giving you hints. Too often children ar left t linger and fail without support until their self esteem and mental health start to suffer badly. Time is important, so channel your worries into action.

    Talk to NAS helpline, to SOSSEN about the SEN process, you will have to complete all the circles before you get where you need to be..

    The tics could be Tourette's but I don't know enough about this. 

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  • Unknown said:
    it sounds like your views are based on outdated stereotypes

    It is understandable that you are worried as a parent. Of course you want the right thing for your child and scary words are  well scary. But this is because of stereotyped meaning part of society assigns to those words. NAS50301 is spot on. 

    Your son is who he is, if it means he is autistic, he is still exactly the same child and the future is open to him in every way. Most limitations for autistic people comes from endemic ableism in society. Not from autism.

    At this stage it is very important for you as a parent to carefully choose your sources of information about autism and disability generally. The ableist tragedy brigade is not going to help you and even less your child. He will grow up and will have his life to live, he will want a job and a relationship, he will want to be accepted and respected for who he is, his difference appreciated as part of the rich human diversity.  If he is autistic, the ableist stereotypes are not going to help him. You need to be on his side.

    On a practical level take the hints from the school and start compiling a case for his referral to the pediatrician/CAMHS and for the Education Health and Care Plan assessment. You are very lucky that the school is supportive and are giving you hints. Too often children ar left t linger and fail without support until their self esteem and mental health start to suffer badly. Time is important, so channel your worries into action.

    Talk to NAS helpline, to SOSSEN about the SEN process, you will have to complete all the circles before you get where you need to be..

    The tics could be Tourette's but I don't know enough about this. 

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  • in reply to Tinyexplorer

    Thanks for replying. I hope you will read my reply to NAS50301 as I feel I may have offended some people and I really didn’t mean that. I was worried last night as my husband hasn’t reacted very well to this and it felt like he was being harder on him than usual on him over things like not using his cutlery or not paying attention to things. He’s thinks I’m too soft but that’s just my approach and I think he responds better to that. He was getting annoyed at his throat clearing tic.

    Thanks for reassuring me about his future and helping to educate me. It is good that the school have picked this up I just wasn’t expecting it. The teacher said it will be good to have the suppose in place even if he doesn’t need it just now he may need it in the future and it will he there if he needs it. 

    Im not sure what ls causing the tics but maybe he’ll grow out of it, the teacher thinks it’s all linked anyway.