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Advice on housing needed.

TylersMummy

I'm wondering if my autisic 3 year old needs a bedroom of his own. At present we are living in a small 3 bedroom council house with his 2 older brothers (8 and 10) and his older sister (12).

The little one sleeps in my bed with me and my husband because he has a tendancy to wake in the night and i don't want him to disturb my boys when they have to up early for school. They also have alot of electrical equipment in their room like tv, xbox etc which the little one could break or hurt himself with and they are also good old boys and constanly make a mess, which could the little one distress.

Also i live a bit of a distance away from all my family and i real feel i need them closer now, to support us and to offer refuge when things get stressful for me my husband and the kids.

Do you think the housing would consider giving me a bigger house? It doesn't need to be a 4 bedroom, but have like a dining room that can be converted. And also will they allow me to move closer to my family?

This is all so new and confusing to me right now and i need the support of my family when my husband is working.

  • hi Fridi/Tylersmummy.  Fridi 1st. I don't know if anyone (sw?) has had a word about certain locks you can get for kitchen units, fridges etc.  Was thinking about your daughter picking up the knife.  Also I think there are things like a lid you can put down on your cooker.   To both of you.  Trying to get a home via council/social housing is v difficult, esp these days.  So many people in need + not enough properties, or not enough of the right size in an area people want to go to.  Dr's letters help.  Seeing your local councillors might help, depending on how strong your case is.  Writing to the Chair of your Children + Families Committee who'll be a councillor (at the town hall) may poss help.  Sorry I can't be of more help.

  • I am living in studio flat with my two daughters one is on the spectrum, as kitchen is combine with lounge she climbes and hurt herself many times, touch the cooking range as it is electrical so it stays hot for long time, she pick up tithe knife many times and it scares me to death , I don't know whether the council will give us a house or not as we r in the of need? 

  • Thank you for your reply.

    I'm not going to hold my breath because i know they are very strained at the moment with housing concerns and we do have a roof over our heads.

    I am still going to try and see if there is any chance and see what options are available to me.

    I don't want to move straight away, i've only just had my front room plastered which in its self is a blessing because Tyler can't peel plaster off the walls...yet lol.

    Good luck with your situation also, i hope you find something suitable soon.

  • Ive enquired about this, as was concerned as I really need an extra "Lottie only" bit of space. 

    From what Ive found out, the bedroom tax only affects people who claim housing benefit if you pay yours in full then the rules dont apply.

    But also I think it all depends where you live and the rent amount and if your household is in receipt of DLA. 

    I enquired and there wont be any change to my family (and even double checked if i did find a larger home)  

    Double check to be sure, and you may find finding a larger home harder than it sounds, ive been waiting now for over a year.   And moving to another social housing area shouldnt be an issue, they do ask questions about why your mving etc, and if you can prove your need you should find that your banding is higher, or alternatively looking to home swapping

  • I appreciate the advice, thank you for replying.

    I know there are changes ahead, not sure what they will be, but my husband works anyway and we pay our own rent and council tax, but i will certainly read up on it.

    I'm going to ring the housing tomorrow and see where we stand. 

    Even if they wont allow me an extra bedroom, just a bigger house would be good. This house is so small, theres nowhere to escape to if we need to wind down or just need 5 minutes to compose ourselves, i've had occassions when i have locked myself in the bathroom for 5 minutes to get myself back together because there is nowhere else to go.

  • hi - can understand why you'd need another bedroom.  However, I'd check out the new rules that are coming in nxt your regarding under-occupancy of social housing which mean that if "they" deem you don't need the number of bedrooms you actually have, then you'll end up losing some of your housing benefit, if you are in receipt of housing benefit.  I'm not up-to-date with this impending legislation in detail, so it might be worth talking to your landlord or the CAB, or sussing things out on line.  There are a few posts on here about these impending changes.  Even tho all your bedrooms would be used, another poster sd that legislation says kids of the same sex can share until a certain age, or something like that.  Sorry I'm not being v clear.  Just check it out 1st.  bw