Extremely aggressive high functioning 13 year old/ support groups

Good morning, 

I am new to this but I would be so grateful for any advice and support anyone can offer me.

My son is 13, he is high functioning and was diagnosed aged 5 with ASD.

He started main stream senior school last year but has since been permanently excluded from 2 due to aggressive/threatening behaviour, having had home tutoring for approx 6 months we are waiting for him to start a specialised school.

I am so, so worried about him and his future, he can be so aggressive, physically and verbally mainly towards me but he clearly doesn’t understand or respect authority as he has exhibited this behaviour in school etc.  He can be wonderful, he has a great personality but it is almost like he has a split personality and when he melts down/kicks off, he changes into this extremely defiant, controlling, aggressive young man who is getting bigger and stronger and it takes me increasingly longer to calm him down, hours sometimes.

He is on an anti anxiety medication but he still has enormous outbursts.

I feel totally isolated, I try calming strategies etc etc but things are getting worse for him and the family and I feel I am the only one who has such an aggressive /violent son, I think I could really benefit from meeting other parents in a similar position but I can’t seem to find that place.  I live in Trafford, Greater Manchester, if anyone is experiencing similar issues and understands my situation and can signpost me to the support I need I would be so so grateful.

Thank you so much for reading my post.

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