Any mums from York with Aspergers children?

Hello, I have a 7 year old son with Asperger's Syndrome and like the lady in York feel very isolated at times, not only because of the stressful times like when he truly doesn't understand that because I'm popping up the road for 5 minutes it doesn't mean that I won't be coming back and when I do return he is absolutely distraught because in his words "I was so scared mummy I thought you'd left me", like when I try to explain that it's not very nice to tell the children in his class to "go away, leave me alone" when they are trying to make friends and to which his reply is "I don't need friends, I have my children" (his children are a group of soft toys which sit on his bed and who he talks to) he doesn't understand how important it is to have friends.

He needs his routine and much, much warning in advance if anything is to change in that daily routine.  He does not play with toys, he does not like football or any sport, he prefers the company of adults to that of children his own age and yet he loves to sit on the computer, not playing games as most children would, for again, in his words "games are for children"! no, he is on the computer reading all manner of technical information regarding operating systems and different types of software/hardware.  He reads and knows all about Bill Gates and has taught himself how to do Powerpoint presentations, batch files and so, so much more .. things his father and I do not even know how to do or how to go about doing them.  He would sit on the computer 24 hours a day if we let him.  Friends, who are much more 'computer minded' than us are totally amazed at how much he knows and what he can do and he is happy, BUT sometimes oh how we wish he was just like other 7 year olds, playing and getting grubby in the garden and kicking a ball about with friends.    

It is so hard at times and I have found myself rarely going anywhere without him when he is not at school because I cannot bear to see him upset.  It hurts when he doesn't understand that it really doesn't matter if you lose when playing a board game because he gets so upset.  It hurts when he doesn't want to join in the school assembly or Christmas play because "I'm scared".  It hurts when at the end of the school day he comes running out of the classroom screaming with tears pouring down his face because "I missed you so much mummy" and to see the shocked looks on other mothers' faces as if to say "what is wrong with that child?"  To look at his little face and see the look of fright and worry because there is so much he doesn't understand and no matter how you try to explain why things happen, he is lost and no amount of explaining will make him see things clearly.

We love him with all our hearts because for all the hardship he is a loving, caring, polite little boy with a heart of gold.  He loves "his dogs" and he loves "his fish" and he loves us.  Our child is special! 

I had my son rather late in life at 43 years old and it would be so lovely to hear from anyone with a child with Aspergers.

Thank you.

Hello, I have a 7 year old son with Asperger's Syndrome and like the lady in York feel very isolated at times, not only because of the stressful times like when he truly doesn't understand that because I'm popping up the road for 5 minutes it doesn't mean that I won't be coming back and when I do return he is absolutely distraught because in his words "I was so scared mummy I thought you'd left me", like when I try to explain that it's not very nice to tell the children in his class to "go away, leave me alone" when they are trying to make friends and to which his reply is "I don't need friends, I have my children" (his children are a group of soft toys which sit on his bed and who he talks to) he doesn't understand how important it is to have friends.

He needs his routine and much, much warning in advance if anything is to change in that daily routine.  He does not play with toys, he does not like football or any sport, he prefers the company of adults to that of children his own age and yet he loves to sit on the computer, not playing games as most children would, for again, in his words "games are for children"! no, he is on the computer reading all manner of technical information regarding operating systems and different types of software/hardware.  He reads and knows all about Bill Gates and has taught himself how to do Powerpoint presentations, batch files and so, so much more .. things his father and I do not even know how to do or how to go about doing them.  He would sit on the computer 24 hours a day if we let him.  Friends, who are much more 'computer minded' than us are totally amazed at how much he knows and what he can do and he is happy, BUT sometimes oh how we wish he was just like other 7 year olds, playing and getting grubby in the garden and kicking a ball about with friends.    

It is so hard at times and I have found myself rarely going anywhere without him when he is not at school because I cannot bear to see him upset.  It hurts when he doesn't understand that it really doesn't matter if you lose when playing a board game because he gets so upset.  It hurts when he doesn't want to join in the school assembly or Christmas play because "I'm scared".  It hurts when at the end of the school day he comes running out of the classroom screaming with tears pouring down his face because "I missed you so much mummy" and to see the shocked looks on other mothers' faces as if to say "what is wrong with that child?"  To look at his little face and see the look of fright and worry because there is so much he doesn't understand and no matter how you try to explain why things happen, he is lost and no amount of explaining will make him see things clearly.

We love him with all our hearts because for all the hardship he is a loving, caring, polite little boy with a heart of gold.  He loves "his dogs" and he loves "his fish" and he loves us.  Our child is special! 

I had my son rather late in life at 43 years old and it would be so lovely to hear from anyone with a child with Aspergers.

Thank you.