Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi I'm new here and I would really appreciate some advice. My 3 year old son has just been diagnosed with autism and I feel a bit lost I'm not sure what it means for him or where to go for advice.
Also he has melt downs which seen to be getting worse I don't know if anyone has any advice on how I can help him with them.
Thanks
hi my. 3.5 yr old got diagnosed with autism but they asked to see him again in 6 months for a review. what does this mean? my son has no sensory issues absolutely no negatives in his behaviour loves to hug kiss dance to music he also loves to sing his nursery songs and is very very affectionate with everyone. he takes turns and shares with other kids but will not play with them unless made to i.e. passing ball back n forth and so on he has some signs of autism but only a couple and im wondering if he is just a little delayed and not reli autistic.
Hi, NAS64544 I am going through the same! How are you coping so far? I’ve just been using research as way to get through it, but I’m finding it’s consuming me but when I take a break, it catches back up with me again!
Planning a visit to the GP and to get in touch with the local authority this week and try and find some support groups. Does your son go to nursery?
Thank you so much for your help and advise
Thank you for your help it's much appreciated.
Meltdowns are a way of showing that the individual is distressed. As such, if you can find the root cause of your sons stress then you can work at reducing his meltdowns. As a child I had regular meltdowns as my parents often shouted, there were lots of smells that I found vile e.g meat cooking, I regularly had to cope with bright lights, lots of talking, crowded places etc, such as school.
Things that help me to control my emotions include excercise, the use of essential oils, dimmed lighting and living in a very quiet environment.
Have you read the book below yet? It has lots of good advice and explains the way in which you son views the worldhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Autism-Asperger-Syndrome-Childhood-diagnosed/dp/1847094929/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=luke+beardon+children&qid=1573884956&sr=8-1
Hello, I’m not the parent of an autistic child, so I can’t give you first hand advice, but NAS does offer a parent to parent service which you can find here. The NAS helpline can be found here.
I would suggest that you try to join a local group of parents with autistic children. It is always good to talk to other people who have similar experiences and share knowledge. You should be able to find out what groups there are via your local or county council web site.
It may also be a good idea to keep a diary to try and identify what sensory experiences your son has problems with. Some people adopt a sensory diet and try to limit incoming information.
This blog is by a mother of an autistic child, she’s been writing it for 6 years now so it may be worth a look. http://flappinessis.com/
You will also find more information here: https://integratedtreatmentservices.co.uk/blog/autism-olga-bogdashina/ and here: http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2017/04/eleven-ways-you-can-make-your-autistic.html
I wish you all the best, Graham.