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school not listening!!!!

tiredeyes

Spoke to my 2 lil uns ep today, she phoned to discuss a possible school for Bounce (youngest one!), for some reson she seems more eager to get bounce into a different mainstream school with a asd unit (from the ones I have seen so far I am not impressed!!).

After discussing a fair bit in detail she pointed out that some recommendations have not been taken upon by the school even though they will help Bounce tremendously in mainstream school. After havinga ABC assesment done while he was in nursery some of his triggers were identified. School discussed them with me and we agreed that these should be prevented to avoid any incidents, these didnt happen at all!!!! School actually aggravated them badly and this resulted in Bounce being excluded twice in a matter of weeks. He was put on a re-integration programme which made matters worse and didnt go back to full time till last week of term!!

He is now in reception and to find out that important advice is not being implemented is shocking. They are refusing to have him full time or even till after dinner, he only gets 2hrs and 45 mins in total.  They mentioned 2 weeks before half term that they are going to employ a permanent 1:1 for Bounce so he can go full time but on last day of half term was told he will still be part-time for  weeks into new term and will be reviewed again.

I know now that they are just waiting or his statement to come so he will be moving to a new school and they wont have to deal with him. Knowing that I had a neighbour who's autistic and went to that school and has severe autism and stayed full time and had no issues and that Bounce is not has bad has him makes me severely question what the school is playing at!!!

I am finding it very hard with all the running up and down the school 3 times a day (its a mile and a half away!) and dealing with my other kids whon have s/n and supporting them.

I just dont know which way to turn, with the demands of all my 7 kids and their additional needs (5 with s/n) and getting my youngest 2 statemented and dealing with everyone is just so draining I barely have 5 minutes to sit down and have a drink in peace without having to run around dealing with everyone. I dont have any support at present just need some advice on how to deal with one very frustraing ignorant school!!!!

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  • hi crystal12, school is def not commited to him at all, they dont bother talking to me in general and def not bother to answer any of my questions (so annoying :(  ).  The ASD units I saw had safety issues and since Bounce is always escaping (and has tried on numerous times at home) and is a climber they just didnt meed his needs. One of them I saw wouldnt even let me see the mainstram area where he will be spending some of his time. This put me off and no decent excuse was given.

    I have found 2 schools that am just making some final enquires to see how they will be able to help/support Bounce before I name a school on his draft statement. EP is helping with this has well has she is speaking to EP attached to both schools to seeif he fits their criteria.

    Bounce hates classrooms full of children and is starting to manage with oly a few in their for now. School are wuite adament that he starts to play with or alongside other kids (he dont even do this at home, and gets very distraught when siblings try) so not sure how it will happen in school. I have dealt with special schools in the past so know a fair bit and Bounce will def do better in one that is able to give the right help and support he needs. The class sizes etc are just ideal for him to cope with.

    I dont have a sw at all, never have had for any of my kids disabilities (for some reson they have never fitted the criteria!!).

    I wouldnt mind at all if i just had one whole day to myself but dont even get that since kids timetables have changed at college and other son has started college. (eldest 3 have s/n and need support within home etc!)

    On top of all this I have injured my foot and am in agony has the amount of walking I am doing (over 10 miles a day) it has put a strain on my ankles has well and in constant pain :( .

    Just nothink seems to be going ryte at all and once on problem/issue is solved another 3/4 come along!!! :(

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  • hi crystal12, school is def not commited to him at all, they dont bother talking to me in general and def not bother to answer any of my questions (so annoying :(  ).  The ASD units I saw had safety issues and since Bounce is always escaping (and has tried on numerous times at home) and is a climber they just didnt meed his needs. One of them I saw wouldnt even let me see the mainstram area where he will be spending some of his time. This put me off and no decent excuse was given.

    I have found 2 schools that am just making some final enquires to see how they will be able to help/support Bounce before I name a school on his draft statement. EP is helping with this has well has she is speaking to EP attached to both schools to seeif he fits their criteria.

    Bounce hates classrooms full of children and is starting to manage with oly a few in their for now. School are wuite adament that he starts to play with or alongside other kids (he dont even do this at home, and gets very distraught when siblings try) so not sure how it will happen in school. I have dealt with special schools in the past so know a fair bit and Bounce will def do better in one that is able to give the right help and support he needs. The class sizes etc are just ideal for him to cope with.

    I dont have a sw at all, never have had for any of my kids disabilities (for some reson they have never fitted the criteria!!).

    I wouldnt mind at all if i just had one whole day to myself but dont even get that since kids timetables have changed at college and other son has started college. (eldest 3 have s/n and need support within home etc!)

    On top of all this I have injured my foot and am in agony has the amount of walking I am doing (over 10 miles a day) it has put a strain on my ankles has well and in constant pain :( .

    Just nothink seems to be going ryte at all and once on problem/issue is solved another 3/4 come along!!! :(

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