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Muckworm

Hi People -

I had a major meltdown today (earlier) - am more or less ok now. It was caused by my Mum (again) making assumptions about me and thinking she was helping when she wasn't. She says she understands my autism but I know she doesn't because of some of the things she does - like today - inviting me round for lunch and I get there and there's other people there I don't know very well and because I didn't know, I lost it. She thinks she's helping in trying to find me friends, but surprising me like that doesn't help and then we fall out which makes me sad.

 

So my point - does anyone know of any books or reading I can get for her other than the stuff NAS produce which she has, to help her understand me better and things that help and don't help? My specific diagnosis is High Functioning Autism.

Thanks.

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  • I have had this problem with my Mum - not quite as bad as in your example, Muckworm, but early on, and still on the odd occasion, she did, and will do, things that really irritate me because although I know she's trying to be helpful she's actually being the exact opposite.

    But, I guess that's what Mums do.

    Anyway, when I can, I try to explain what it was that she is doing wrong, and why it is wrong.

    Which is not always easy.

    Oh, and I found that after she read Tony Attwoods Complete Guide To Asperger's book, and after we'd been to see him talk in Lincoln, she did, and does, fewer and fewer such things.

    One thing I always try to remember in these situations is that she is trying to help, and I am always grateful for that, but also that it is almost as hard for her to understand me, and my needs, as it is for me to understand neurotypicals (I say 'almost' because we're coming to the realisation that she, if not actually 'on the spectrum' in a diagnostic sense, certainly has lots of the traits (which probably doesn't actually help)).

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  • I have had this problem with my Mum - not quite as bad as in your example, Muckworm, but early on, and still on the odd occasion, she did, and will do, things that really irritate me because although I know she's trying to be helpful she's actually being the exact opposite.

    But, I guess that's what Mums do.

    Anyway, when I can, I try to explain what it was that she is doing wrong, and why it is wrong.

    Which is not always easy.

    Oh, and I found that after she read Tony Attwoods Complete Guide To Asperger's book, and after we'd been to see him talk in Lincoln, she did, and does, fewer and fewer such things.

    One thing I always try to remember in these situations is that she is trying to help, and I am always grateful for that, but also that it is almost as hard for her to understand me, and my needs, as it is for me to understand neurotypicals (I say 'almost' because we're coming to the realisation that she, if not actually 'on the spectrum' in a diagnostic sense, certainly has lots of the traits (which probably doesn't actually help)).

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