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Muckworm

Hi People -

I had a major meltdown today (earlier) - am more or less ok now. It was caused by my Mum (again) making assumptions about me and thinking she was helping when she wasn't. She says she understands my autism but I know she doesn't because of some of the things she does - like today - inviting me round for lunch and I get there and there's other people there I don't know very well and because I didn't know, I lost it. She thinks she's helping in trying to find me friends, but surprising me like that doesn't help and then we fall out which makes me sad.

 

So my point - does anyone know of any books or reading I can get for her other than the stuff NAS produce which she has, to help her understand me better and things that help and don't help? My specific diagnosis is High Functioning Autism.

Thanks.

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  • hi Muckworm.  MrsP is right.  Your mum needs to understand you better.  She seems to know at least some of the theory already.  Like a lot of people she has problems putting what she's read into practice some of the time.  This is because she makes assumptions about you from her perspective and not yours.  So you need to bring her up to speed, as MrsP says.  It might be hard going for you but as long as your mum is willing to listen or to read what you've written then it will help.  It can be difficult for NTs to bear everything in mind all the time in relation to autism, especially if they have lots of other things to think about as well.  It must have been awful for you to go to lunch and have a melt down which would have been avoidable if the situation had been more in line with what you were expecting.  She needs to think a bit more deeply about how autism affects you.   bw

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  • hi Muckworm.  MrsP is right.  Your mum needs to understand you better.  She seems to know at least some of the theory already.  Like a lot of people she has problems putting what she's read into practice some of the time.  This is because she makes assumptions about you from her perspective and not yours.  So you need to bring her up to speed, as MrsP says.  It might be hard going for you but as long as your mum is willing to listen or to read what you've written then it will help.  It can be difficult for NTs to bear everything in mind all the time in relation to autism, especially if they have lots of other things to think about as well.  It must have been awful for you to go to lunch and have a melt down which would have been avoidable if the situation had been more in line with what you were expecting.  She needs to think a bit more deeply about how autism affects you.   bw

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