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MrsP

Hope this is in the right place (newbie alert lol)

can I ask what are people's approaches to other people staring and commenting?

i am so sick of 'justifying' my ds's (6) behaviour to other people but likewise can't get my head around the idea of 'the card' (my ds is autistic blah blah) - if ds was battering people's children etc I could understand parents wanting to comment etc but only person ds hurts in a meltdown is himself (or me if he catches me by accident!) DH says to ignore it but its so hurtful seeing tuts or people just outright staring!

rightly or wrongly this is one of the aspects of ds being on the spectrum I find hardest! He couldn't give a fluff if someone commejust but I feel like saying 'I'm not a bad parent HONEST!' 

any tips?

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  • I also find other people's reaction to my son very difficult to deal with. We had a case a few months ago where we had just been to speech therapy and popped to the supermarket on the way home. Jake wasn't having a meltdown but was very excited and happy, and was jumping up and down, screaching and flapping his arms. This absolutely vile old woman came up to him, screamed in his face that he was really naughty and that people didn't want to listen to the horrible noise he was making, upon which Jake threw himself on the floor screaming and holding his ears, as he hates raised voices and gets very upset. It took every ounce of strength to stop myself from hitting her but I left the store as Jake was so upset.

    But I have found it really difficult to bring myself to go to the shops since - not because I'm afraid of what people think - I couldn't care less about that but I'm scared that someone else will really upset my little boy again, and I'm also scared that I won't be able to keep calm next time Frown

     

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  • I also find other people's reaction to my son very difficult to deal with. We had a case a few months ago where we had just been to speech therapy and popped to the supermarket on the way home. Jake wasn't having a meltdown but was very excited and happy, and was jumping up and down, screaching and flapping his arms. This absolutely vile old woman came up to him, screamed in his face that he was really naughty and that people didn't want to listen to the horrible noise he was making, upon which Jake threw himself on the floor screaming and holding his ears, as he hates raised voices and gets very upset. It took every ounce of strength to stop myself from hitting her but I left the store as Jake was so upset.

    But I have found it really difficult to bring myself to go to the shops since - not because I'm afraid of what people think - I couldn't care less about that but I'm scared that someone else will really upset my little boy again, and I'm also scared that I won't be able to keep calm next time Frown

     

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