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MrsP

Hope this is in the right place (newbie alert lol)

can I ask what are people's approaches to other people staring and commenting?

i am so sick of 'justifying' my ds's (6) behaviour to other people but likewise can't get my head around the idea of 'the card' (my ds is autistic blah blah) - if ds was battering people's children etc I could understand parents wanting to comment etc but only person ds hurts in a meltdown is himself (or me if he catches me by accident!) DH says to ignore it but its so hurtful seeing tuts or people just outright staring!

rightly or wrongly this is one of the aspects of ds being on the spectrum I find hardest! He couldn't give a fluff if someone commejust but I feel like saying 'I'm not a bad parent HONEST!' 

any tips?

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  • NAS11866 said:

    I read somewhere "Those that matter don't mind, those that mind don't matter". I used to keep saying it in my head.

    This so true. I volunteer in a charity shop and we have all kinds of people in there. We once had a child who had a meltdown and I ignored the child; as they weren't be so distruptive that the noise is painful; nor were they breaking something. One of the workers did say that the child is just spoilt - charming!

    We have had a child in the shop and I thought he has Downs Syndrome. (It turns out he does - my manager was talking about his mum this morning and mentioned that the little boy does have Downs) He was being a bit loud and his mother was trying to keep him quiet / entertained. Again, I ignored him. He wasn't being so loud that it was causing a problem.

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  • NAS11866 said:

    I read somewhere "Those that matter don't mind, those that mind don't matter". I used to keep saying it in my head.

    This so true. I volunteer in a charity shop and we have all kinds of people in there. We once had a child who had a meltdown and I ignored the child; as they weren't be so distruptive that the noise is painful; nor were they breaking something. One of the workers did say that the child is just spoilt - charming!

    We have had a child in the shop and I thought he has Downs Syndrome. (It turns out he does - my manager was talking about his mum this morning and mentioned that the little boy does have Downs) He was being a bit loud and his mother was trying to keep him quiet / entertained. Again, I ignored him. He wasn't being so loud that it was causing a problem.

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