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MrsP

Hope this is in the right place (newbie alert lol)

can I ask what are people's approaches to other people staring and commenting?

i am so sick of 'justifying' my ds's (6) behaviour to other people but likewise can't get my head around the idea of 'the card' (my ds is autistic blah blah) - if ds was battering people's children etc I could understand parents wanting to comment etc but only person ds hurts in a meltdown is himself (or me if he catches me by accident!) DH says to ignore it but its so hurtful seeing tuts or people just outright staring!

rightly or wrongly this is one of the aspects of ds being on the spectrum I find hardest! He couldn't give a fluff if someone commejust but I feel like saying 'I'm not a bad parent HONEST!' 

any tips?

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  • thanks for the replies :)

    i had an instance recently where ds was melting down in the changing rooms of the swimming pool - really going for it, head banging, doing that high pitched scream etc - I would be gobsmacked if anyone could have thought it was a temper tantrum the way he was going and yet some woman left the changing room to complain to the manager about him :( sadly for her my husband was outside changing room and challeneged her on it to which her response was 'oh it used to be ADHD that was the popular diagnosis for poor disapline'.

    to be fair some people look sympathetic, I just wish they wouldn't interfere! To a massively over stimulated child just having someone else a standing there is too much!! 

    But guess its part of life! Ibe heard of the opinion of 'use it to educate people' but tbh after dealing with a meltdown the last thing i fancy doing is having a chat!!! I'm much more likely to want to go home and n collapse with a 'thank god we survived it!'

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  • thanks for the replies :)

    i had an instance recently where ds was melting down in the changing rooms of the swimming pool - really going for it, head banging, doing that high pitched scream etc - I would be gobsmacked if anyone could have thought it was a temper tantrum the way he was going and yet some woman left the changing room to complain to the manager about him :( sadly for her my husband was outside changing room and challeneged her on it to which her response was 'oh it used to be ADHD that was the popular diagnosis for poor disapline'.

    to be fair some people look sympathetic, I just wish they wouldn't interfere! To a massively over stimulated child just having someone else a standing there is too much!! 

    But guess its part of life! Ibe heard of the opinion of 'use it to educate people' but tbh after dealing with a meltdown the last thing i fancy doing is having a chat!!! I'm much more likely to want to go home and n collapse with a 'thank god we survived it!'

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