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MrsP

Hope this is in the right place (newbie alert lol)

can I ask what are people's approaches to other people staring and commenting?

i am so sick of 'justifying' my ds's (6) behaviour to other people but likewise can't get my head around the idea of 'the card' (my ds is autistic blah blah) - if ds was battering people's children etc I could understand parents wanting to comment etc but only person ds hurts in a meltdown is himself (or me if he catches me by accident!) DH says to ignore it but its so hurtful seeing tuts or people just outright staring!

rightly or wrongly this is one of the aspects of ds being on the spectrum I find hardest! He couldn't give a fluff if someone commejust but I feel like saying 'I'm not a bad parent HONEST!' 

any tips?

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  • "i am so sick of 'justifying' my ds's (6) behaviour to other people"............Then dont!

    I dont feel the need to explain the behaviour of my kids to anyone who passes comment any more than they feel the need to explain their ignorant outbursts to me.

    It dosnt make the comments they make any easier to accept and i fully understand that whilst in the middle of trying to accomodate your childs "meltdown" they just add unwelcome stress to the situation, believe me i know. Fact is we dont have to accept what they say, id say that you have the more educated view of exactly whats going on.If someone started shouting at you that the world would end tommorow would you take any notice? i guess we just have to make peace with it all and accept that not everyone will understand,  in much the same way that we accept  "meltdowns" are going to happen.

    Keep smiling, it will confuse themSmile

     

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  • "i am so sick of 'justifying' my ds's (6) behaviour to other people"............Then dont!

    I dont feel the need to explain the behaviour of my kids to anyone who passes comment any more than they feel the need to explain their ignorant outbursts to me.

    It dosnt make the comments they make any easier to accept and i fully understand that whilst in the middle of trying to accomodate your childs "meltdown" they just add unwelcome stress to the situation, believe me i know. Fact is we dont have to accept what they say, id say that you have the more educated view of exactly whats going on.If someone started shouting at you that the world would end tommorow would you take any notice? i guess we just have to make peace with it all and accept that not everyone will understand,  in much the same way that we accept  "meltdowns" are going to happen.

    Keep smiling, it will confuse themSmile

     

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