Very shocked and hurt by my friends reaction to my ASD son

My friend and I have a very close and supportive relationship.  She knows how I struggle taking my 2 ASD boys out in public and how I feel judged and upset by the reaction of others.  I honestly thought she understood and would never make me feel judged.
However, we went out with our kids for a few hours and my youngest was being very over excited, loud and cheeky.  I could see she look horrified whilst I dealt with him and then I told her I had nipped it in the bud.  She shot back that he was still being naughty and fired questions at me wanting to know why he had been good on a recent day out but not on the day in question.
I was too shocked to really say much and didn't express my disapproval of describing his disability as being naughty.  I made it clear that she had only seen the tip of a very large iceberg.  It upsets me that she voiced what I imagined strangers were thinking when he was having his worst meltdowns - he wasn't even having a meltdown so how on earth would she react to that.
Am I being over sensitive, or would you feel the same?
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  • Hi, 

    This is the most  awful feeling a parent can go through. We all struggle as it is and support is what keeps us going. I have had friends say things that are insensitive and you are not over reacting only you no if your friend is a true friend or not. If she is then it could be a lack of understanding on her part i believe people friends etc need educating just the same as we do. 

    As hard as it is to accept if they can not accept ur children it takes great strength for you to accept she may not be the friend you need, you need support as much as your child does. 

  • I do think it's lack of understanding and quite possibly he aggravated her anxiety and/or the situation embarrassed her.  I have been friends with her for a long time and I always felt like she was the sister I never had.  I guess that made it hurt even more.  

  • I would have a honest conversation with her if you are really close it can be sorted and she could be upset she made you feel that way. 

    It can be hard for everyone involved open communication is important even with friends involved x 

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