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What a meltdown

NAS62869

My child had sports day today. He was called to do the relay race. Turned out they had too many children called up, so my child was left running back and fore trying to find a space for himself. Of course he didn't find one, as there was no space for him. 

Pasrents called out and the teacher told him to go and sit back down. 

If you have an autistic child, you're going to know the results of this. He had a meltdown, burst into tears and this later for 20 minutes or so, in front of his peers and parents. I was not happy with the teachers response at all, when I eventually had a chance to speak to the teacher, he just laughed and brushed it off. 

For my child who has aspergers, it was a BIG deal. Because he's so high functioning, it appears as if he should just 'grow a pair' and get over himself, however that's never goi2to happen. This is who he is.

Anyone else have experience of child meltdowns in this way? Anyone have experience of school teachers just 'not getting it'??.

Thanks

Parents

  • Hi. 

    Thanks for replies. 

    I agree that these things happen in life and I try SO HARD to explain this to my son, although his outbursts continue with events like this, due to his aspergers. 

    I do believe we can push boundaries and he can develop emotionally, I encourage this through books etc, and at the same time, he may always find this difficult. I think there's a dialectic here. 

    What I didn't like, was the teacher laughing and brushing it off. To my son, it meant the world in his little head. This school apparently is 'autism trained' too.

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  • Hi. 

    Thanks for replies. 

    I agree that these things happen in life and I try SO HARD to explain this to my son, although his outbursts continue with events like this, due to his aspergers. 

    I do believe we can push boundaries and he can develop emotionally, I encourage this through books etc, and at the same time, he may always find this difficult. I think there's a dialectic here. 

    What I didn't like, was the teacher laughing and brushing it off. To my son, it meant the world in his little head. This school apparently is 'autism trained' too.

Children
  • in reply to NAS62869

    The school may be autism trained, but that teacher certainly isn't. My daughter has similar struggles only she won't have a meltdown at school she shuts down then blows up up at home. 

    It is totally understandable that this meant alot to your son and to be laughed off is insulting all it does is tell him he doesn't matter his feelings are something to be laughed at. 

    Personally I would write a letter of concern to the school.