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What a meltdown

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My child had sports day today. He was called to do the relay race. Turned out they had too many children called up, so my child was left running back and fore trying to find a space for himself. Of course he didn't find one, as there was no space for him. 

Pasrents called out and the teacher told him to go and sit back down. 

If you have an autistic child, you're going to know the results of this. He had a meltdown, burst into tears and this later for 20 minutes or so, in front of his peers and parents. I was not happy with the teachers response at all, when I eventually had a chance to speak to the teacher, he just laughed and brushed it off. 

For my child who has aspergers, it was a BIG deal. Because he's so high functioning, it appears as if he should just 'grow a pair' and get over himself, however that's never goi2to happen. This is who he is.

Anyone else have experience of child meltdowns in this way? Anyone have experience of school teachers just 'not getting it'??.

Thanks

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  • I can understand how distressing these things are, but that is life. It is definitely harder for someone with Asperger's, and I agree that the teacher did not deal with the situation well. I agree that it might be a good idea to remind the teachers of the difficulties he faces. But also do not say it's impossible to get over it. You shouldn't set his limits due to his Asperger's, because you are already saying "he will never be able to do xxx". Never say never, because everyone has potential, and I believe he has potential to improve. Guide him in how to get over it, teach him how to forgive others who make mistakes. Give him guidance on how to deal with difficult situations. This way he will adapt better in society when things become even more complicated than school.

  • in reply to qwerty

    Quite right qwerty. Although the teacher should understand and not laugh off any concerns, it will be a valuable tool in life for your son to be able to understand when he is upset, why and how to rationalise and manage it. I believe the reason I leant to survive is that I had no choice and had to learn, and all through life there are challenges and moments that will cause a meltdown. If you cannot understand and manage them they are harder to deal with and life is harder to deal with.

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  • in reply to qwerty

    Quite right qwerty. Although the teacher should understand and not laugh off any concerns, it will be a valuable tool in life for your son to be able to understand when he is upset, why and how to rationalise and manage it. I believe the reason I leant to survive is that I had no choice and had to learn, and all through life there are challenges and moments that will cause a meltdown. If you cannot understand and manage them they are harder to deal with and life is harder to deal with.

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