5 year old girl is made fun of at school

I don't think God has taken anything from your daughter, looking at NTs and what they do to fit in I feel incredibly privileged to be autistic and to not have the same constraints as them, so perhaps he's given her more than others?

Unfortunately, as a human race were terrible at diversity. There's always a few vocal people who aren't very accepting of minorities and the rest of the pack are terrified of standing out and receiving the same treatment, due to this, they either add to the bad behaviour or at least accept it. It is likely your daughter is going to come across this behaviour all her life. I'm just finishing up a teaching role in a university disability team. My team have won numerous awards for best practice and we have one of the highest numbers of autistic students in the UK. We regularly have autistic individuals deliver talks, which my team attend, that highlight how social exclusion is one of the greatest challenges that face autistic people. Despite this, due to my sensory needs, I'm based in my own office a floor above my team. In the 15 months I've been there only one person has ever made the effort to come and speak to me. The team go out for lunches together and never invite me, plus when it was the Christmas party they all walked up to the restaurant together and didn't even tell me what time they were leaving. I don't think they do this on purpose. Although they hear what it's like for autistic individuals, I don't think they have the capacity to fully understand this information and act upon it. I have worked in other teams where they have gone out of their way to include me but this team isn't like that.

The greatest thing you could do for your daughter is to help her develop coping mechanisms, as well as her understanding of human behaviour. For example, there may be times in her life where she has to cope with hostile environments but that doesn't mean there aren't people elsewhere who will be interested in her and want to be her friend. If school isn't the environment for this I'd be encouraging her to join clubs, such as beavers, to meet other people. This could involve a lot of trail and error. What she's experiencing now isn't necessarily a NT/ND issue. For example, at uni meet people who don't get on with those in their halls or on their course. It's the ones who join clubs, make friends through work etc who were able to cope with that, whilst others leave.

I'm currently pregnant and have ordered the following book and workbook to help me teach my daughter about people skills.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Silent-Guides-author-Chimp-Paradox/dp/1788700015/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=steve+peters&qid=1562131938&s=books&sr=1-1

https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Hidden-Chimp-author-Paradox-ebook/dp/B07K34NMK8/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=steve+peters+workbook&qid=1562131417&s=books&sr=1-1

I don't think God has taken anything from your daughter, looking at NTs and what they do to fit in I feel incredibly privileged to be autistic and to not have the same constraints as them, so perhaps he's given her more than others?

Unfortunately, as a human race were terrible at diversity. There's always a few vocal people who aren't very accepting of minorities and the rest of the pack are terrified of standing out and receiving the same treatment, due to this, they either add to the bad behaviour or at least accept it. It is likely your daughter is going to come across this behaviour all her life. I'm just finishing up a teaching role in a university disability team. My team have won numerous awards for best practice and we have one of the highest numbers of autistic students in the UK. We regularly have autistic individuals deliver talks, which my team attend, that highlight how social exclusion is one of the greatest challenges that face autistic people. Despite this, due to my sensory needs, I'm based in my own office a floor above my team. In the 15 months I've been there only one person has ever made the effort to come and speak to me. The team go out for lunches together and never invite me, plus when it was the Christmas party they all walked up to the restaurant together and didn't even tell me what time they were leaving. I don't think they do this on purpose. Although they hear what it's like for autistic individuals, I don't think they have the capacity to fully understand this information and act upon it. I have worked in other teams where they have gone out of their way to include me but this team isn't like that.

The greatest thing you could do for your daughter is to help her develop coping mechanisms, as well as her understanding of human behaviour. For example, there may be times in her life where she has to cope with hostile environments but that doesn't mean there aren't people elsewhere who will be interested in her and want to be her friend. If school isn't the environment for this I'd be encouraging her to join clubs, such as beavers, to meet other people. This could involve a lot of trail and error. What she's experiencing now isn't necessarily a NT/ND issue. For example, at uni meet people who don't get on with those in their halls or on their course. It's the ones who join clubs, make friends through work etc who were able to cope with that, whilst others leave.

I'm currently pregnant and have ordered the following book and workbook to help me teach my daughter about people skills.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Silent-Guides-author-Chimp-Paradox/dp/1788700015/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=steve+peters&qid=1562131938&s=books&sr=1-1

https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Hidden-Chimp-author-Paradox-ebook/dp/B07K34NMK8/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=steve+peters+workbook&qid=1562131417&s=books&sr=1-1

Hi 

I absolutely adore my girl and believe in her talent and strength undoubtedly. I know for sure that she will have lead a very independent life and will do great in her career.

What I meant was these childhood pleasures, carefree and memorable time. God snatched this from her. Her Autism was bit severe between 2-4 years don't know why. And she was extremely scared of loud noises, sensitive to touch of certain objects and social interaction. Her nursery time was extremely tough and everyday other kids would play, eat meals enjoy doing messy play crafts etc she would sit in one corner and play with same toy. They will get her to do diff things but she would just sit uninterested. In her 2 years of nursery she only ate fruits there not a single meal. I just didn't wanted her to not enjoy school time just how she didn't nursery. It's not in my control but just a mother's feeling. 

Now she is totally changed person. Talking about her fears helps her to overcome them. For example hand dryers. Going out and using public toilet was my biggest worry and we used to avoid going anywhere she is not familiar. Still she takes baby steps before using it and is very wary of the surroundings. But happy for her that she can go to toilet the most basic human necessity without any fear in her little heart.

Yes I agree with you. I am reading alot to her. She is very honest bright little girl. One thing I can tell you is that she never does anything wrong. For her world is either black or white there is no in between. If she she something is wrong everyone will do it she would never. She is not afraid to stand alone. I know like you said she is and with time will face some more negative behaviours and I will have to prepare her for that. 

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Hope things go as you wish. 

God bless your lil one