Please Help!! Agression out of control!

I have a 16 year old son with ASD, he hasn't attended school since February due to him suffering with extreme anxiety and depression. No other provisions have been offered him and I have been fighting for months for help from social services and CAMHS. Camhs are on board and he's having therapy once a week (just started) but social services while involved are not doing anything to help. He has become totally isolated, refusing to leave the house most days, he is depressed, frustrated, and often talks of dying or suicide. I have had to give up my job as he cannot be left alone and the whole thing has had a massive effect on the family aswell as my son.I am trying to get him in to a private college for youngsters with Autism, but this will be a fight due to funding I'm sure. Meanwhile he is at home each day, afraid to go out, afraid of other children, and afraid of what is to become of him and his life. Despite all the time, love and suport from his sister, stepdad and myself he is spiralling out of control and I am fearful that he is going to hurt himself. He is having daily meltdowns, usually more than one or two and he is smashing things, slamming doors, throwing things at me and has even started pushing and shoving me.While I undestand the pain and frustration he is feeling it is very difficult to deal with day after day with nobody helping us.My husband has come to the end of his tether and fear he is going to leave any day, he cannot bare to watch my sons' destructive behaviour and aggression any longer, and the arguments have started!I feel as though our lives are falling apart and dont know where to turn, things are getting worse each day.Please somebody advise me how I deal with these meltdowns, I used to ignore him and he would calm down in his own time but the aggression has escalated towards the home and myself.And my fear is that he is going to hurt himself or someone. I cannot ignore that!!I'm hoping we will be successful and my son will be given a place at this wonderful college and his life could be transformed, but we are really struggling to cope at the moment.Any advice will be greatly appreciated!! Sorry if I went on a bit x 

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  • hi - this must be so very difficult for everyone concerned.  Do you think camhs are helping?  Have they suggested a way forward?  I'm wondering because I don't know how expert they are with ASD.  Could your gp or camhs prescribe something to help relieve your son's distress to a degree?  Just to take the edge off a bit, if he was willing.  I know we have to fight for services, especially in the present economic climate where councils are strapped for cash, but I'd still pester social services if you feel up to it.  A pa, well trained and experienced in ASD, as mentioned by Bell, may be of help.  Autism specific care workers who are employed by an autism specific organisation are the best, in my opinion.  The carer wil liaise with their superiors and yourself so there should be interventions by others in the organisation on behalf of your son and his needs.   I'm sceptical about generic care organisations who have an "autism section" from 1st hand experience.  I hope things cool down for you soon  

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  • hi - this must be so very difficult for everyone concerned.  Do you think camhs are helping?  Have they suggested a way forward?  I'm wondering because I don't know how expert they are with ASD.  Could your gp or camhs prescribe something to help relieve your son's distress to a degree?  Just to take the edge off a bit, if he was willing.  I know we have to fight for services, especially in the present economic climate where councils are strapped for cash, but I'd still pester social services if you feel up to it.  A pa, well trained and experienced in ASD, as mentioned by Bell, may be of help.  Autism specific care workers who are employed by an autism specific organisation are the best, in my opinion.  The carer wil liaise with their superiors and yourself so there should be interventions by others in the organisation on behalf of your son and his needs.   I'm sceptical about generic care organisations who have an "autism section" from 1st hand experience.  I hope things cool down for you soon  

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