One child ASD and one NT

My five year old daughter has ASD and severe learning difficulties and I also have a three year old son who is neurotypical.

Is anyone else in this situation, where their youngest is NT? Our peadiatrician has told us our son will soon 'overtake' our daughter and in some ways he already has - he attempts proper conversations and notices things, is curious about things, shows empathy when someone is upset, copes with changes and new places fine.

I am really struggling with this concept and it kills me to watch him and think about the future where he will have to be the older one and learn all about his sister's issues. He absolutely dotes on her and follows her around like a puppy.

I also feel very guilty because each morning I look forward to hearing his latest observations, new phrases he has learnt, new questions etc whereas my daughter is just so predictable and monotone. She will just repeat phrases from tv programmes, no conversational talk atall and if I am honest it is tedious and wearing. Makes me feel like we get nowhere with her, nothing out of her, no personality or character. : (

She is going to SN school in Sept and everyone reassures us that they will bring her on so much she will thrive so I am looking forward to this happening and hopefully his will allieviate these feelings I have.

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  • Yes they have lots of other autistic kids there, a couple will be in her class and they have autism specialists working there too, a couple of the teachers are doing MAs in it as well so we should get lots of answers and help.

    Thanks for understanding anyway and for your advice - some days are better than others and I am much more positive and hopeful, but have just had a run of difficult days so am losing faith again!

    Will look up those vids though - good idea for inspiration.

    xx

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  • Yes they have lots of other autistic kids there, a couple will be in her class and they have autism specialists working there too, a couple of the teachers are doing MAs in it as well so we should get lots of answers and help.

    Thanks for understanding anyway and for your advice - some days are better than others and I am much more positive and hopeful, but have just had a run of difficult days so am losing faith again!

    Will look up those vids though - good idea for inspiration.

    xx

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