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One child ASD and one NT

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My five year old daughter has ASD and severe learning difficulties and I also have a three year old son who is neurotypical.

Is anyone else in this situation, where their youngest is NT? Our peadiatrician has told us our son will soon 'overtake' our daughter and in some ways he already has - he attempts proper conversations and notices things, is curious about things, shows empathy when someone is upset, copes with changes and new places fine.

I am really struggling with this concept and it kills me to watch him and think about the future where he will have to be the older one and learn all about his sister's issues. He absolutely dotes on her and follows her around like a puppy.

I also feel very guilty because each morning I look forward to hearing his latest observations, new phrases he has learnt, new questions etc whereas my daughter is just so predictable and monotone. She will just repeat phrases from tv programmes, no conversational talk atall and if I am honest it is tedious and wearing. Makes me feel like we get nowhere with her, nothing out of her, no personality or character. : (

She is going to SN school in Sept and everyone reassures us that they will bring her on so much she will thrive so I am looking forward to this happening and hopefully his will allieviate these feelings I have.

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  • Thanks - am just tired I think and having a bad day, didn't mean to sound so negative. Yes we have been told it is her way of communicating and at least she IS communicating with us in her own way. She does occasionally come out with the odd phrase which is from an observation or a feeling etc. We just haven't had any for a while and I forget!

    Yes our pead did say that, but we have since discovered she isn't a great peadiatrician so I am starting to take what she says with a pinch of salt at times!

    I think I just have days where my son's progress is streets ahead of what hers was at that age and I know you shouldn't compare but easier said than done.

    She is starting SN school in Sept and we are hoping they can shed some light on where she is on the spectrum because her mainstream school last year just couldn't cope with her atall so couldn't give us much insight into her autism or learning difficulties. She has had settling in visits there and they did not bat an eyelid at her funny ways atall so it was lovely to meet people who understand and have seen it all before.

    Thx for replying though as well xx

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  • Thanks - am just tired I think and having a bad day, didn't mean to sound so negative. Yes we have been told it is her way of communicating and at least she IS communicating with us in her own way. She does occasionally come out with the odd phrase which is from an observation or a feeling etc. We just haven't had any for a while and I forget!

    Yes our pead did say that, but we have since discovered she isn't a great peadiatrician so I am starting to take what she says with a pinch of salt at times!

    I think I just have days where my son's progress is streets ahead of what hers was at that age and I know you shouldn't compare but easier said than done.

    She is starting SN school in Sept and we are hoping they can shed some light on where she is on the spectrum because her mainstream school last year just couldn't cope with her atall so couldn't give us much insight into her autism or learning difficulties. She has had settling in visits there and they did not bat an eyelid at her funny ways atall so it was lovely to meet people who understand and have seen it all before.

    Thx for replying though as well xx

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