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Computer addict

Johnsmum

My son spends several hours every day on his computer, mostly playing games or music, though I have a suspicion he may have viewed porn as well. As he is a teenager, it's probably too late to start imposing a time limit on computer time (besides which, if he weren't on the computer, he would only be watching TV).

Do others think that too much computer time is not good for our kids? I would love him to be making friends but he never invites anyone home from school, and they don't invite him. If they did, of course, they would end up playing computer games together! But at least it would be social.

We have very good provision in our area for social activities for kids on the spectrum, but I get a feeling he doesn't want to go to something that is especially for kids like him.

Would love to hear others' thoughts on computers, socializing, etc, especially for older teenagers.

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  • BlackHatMentor said:

    Ok, this is where problems occur.

    Do NOT stop them from being on the computer.

    I was identical to that, and am currently studying Computer Science at top of my class.

    Due to being on the computer so much I didn't drink much, I didn't turn to "legal drugs" and I didn't commit acts of vandalism with my freinds.

    And need for social interaction? They fulfill this at school, try letting them relax a bit, for all you know they might become the next Steve Jobs or the next Alan Turing.

     

    As a side note, I think you would preffer they saw porn than have a girl's dad coming to your door about your son getting his daughter pregnant.

    while i understand what point you're trying to make, would your advice be the same if he wanted to keep banging his head against a wall?

    what his mother is asking is for advice in order to get a healthy balance. even if my son wasn't autistic i would worry about him spending too much time on a computer/watching tv. also, as a mother i can understand what she is trying to say about her son watching porn - it's not the fact he's interested in sex - after all he's a 'normal teenager' in that respect...more the worry that he will view it in the wrong context and be mis-informed about what it's all about.

    thankfully i didn't spend too much time on my computer when i was younger, and also managed to stay away from drugs etc - as many in society do.

    the only thing i could suggest is perhaps talking to him, asking him to suggest a timetable that you could both agree on, and see how it goes perhaps?

    take care :)

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  • BlackHatMentor said:

    Ok, this is where problems occur.

    Do NOT stop them from being on the computer.

    I was identical to that, and am currently studying Computer Science at top of my class.

    Due to being on the computer so much I didn't drink much, I didn't turn to "legal drugs" and I didn't commit acts of vandalism with my freinds.

    And need for social interaction? They fulfill this at school, try letting them relax a bit, for all you know they might become the next Steve Jobs or the next Alan Turing.

     

    As a side note, I think you would preffer they saw porn than have a girl's dad coming to your door about your son getting his daughter pregnant.

    while i understand what point you're trying to make, would your advice be the same if he wanted to keep banging his head against a wall?

    what his mother is asking is for advice in order to get a healthy balance. even if my son wasn't autistic i would worry about him spending too much time on a computer/watching tv. also, as a mother i can understand what she is trying to say about her son watching porn - it's not the fact he's interested in sex - after all he's a 'normal teenager' in that respect...more the worry that he will view it in the wrong context and be mis-informed about what it's all about.

    thankfully i didn't spend too much time on my computer when i was younger, and also managed to stay away from drugs etc - as many in society do.

    the only thing i could suggest is perhaps talking to him, asking him to suggest a timetable that you could both agree on, and see how it goes perhaps?

    take care :)

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