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Computer addict

Johnsmum

My son spends several hours every day on his computer, mostly playing games or music, though I have a suspicion he may have viewed porn as well. As he is a teenager, it's probably too late to start imposing a time limit on computer time (besides which, if he weren't on the computer, he would only be watching TV).

Do others think that too much computer time is not good for our kids? I would love him to be making friends but he never invites anyone home from school, and they don't invite him. If they did, of course, they would end up playing computer games together! But at least it would be social.

We have very good provision in our area for social activities for kids on the spectrum, but I get a feeling he doesn't want to go to something that is especially for kids like him.

Would love to hear others' thoughts on computers, socializing, etc, especially for older teenagers.

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  • Hi everyone.

    Computer games are becoming a big problem here to !

    My son is 9 and wants to be playing all the time. There are tantrums and tears when it comes to turning it off and I know it will be a major issue over the xmas hols.

     I do limit the time everyday though because I find that if I dont it gets to the point where he becomes totally immersed and cant even hold a conversation thats not about Mario or shooting down aliens. Sometimes I say that he cant go on the computer but I give him some options of other things to do. This seems to work because he has something to fill the time and he is less anxious about it. Its a struggle to get him to agree but usually we end up doing something together and he comes out of himself a little.

    That said it does give my son something to discuss with the other boys at school and helps him to feel included in the playground. He really struggles with that environment and its been usefull in that respect.He can also invite others to play the computer and cope with someone visiting which was not possible before.

    I'm planning an activity and some social contact everyday over xmas so that he doesnt drift upstairs to the computer all the time and although he is getting an xbox (like most of the boys at school) I am going to insist it stays downstairs so he is around with us. I might even join in !!

    xxx

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  • Hi everyone.

    Computer games are becoming a big problem here to !

    My son is 9 and wants to be playing all the time. There are tantrums and tears when it comes to turning it off and I know it will be a major issue over the xmas hols.

     I do limit the time everyday though because I find that if I dont it gets to the point where he becomes totally immersed and cant even hold a conversation thats not about Mario or shooting down aliens. Sometimes I say that he cant go on the computer but I give him some options of other things to do. This seems to work because he has something to fill the time and he is less anxious about it. Its a struggle to get him to agree but usually we end up doing something together and he comes out of himself a little.

    That said it does give my son something to discuss with the other boys at school and helps him to feel included in the playground. He really struggles with that environment and its been usefull in that respect.He can also invite others to play the computer and cope with someone visiting which was not possible before.

    I'm planning an activity and some social contact everyday over xmas so that he doesnt drift upstairs to the computer all the time and although he is getting an xbox (like most of the boys at school) I am going to insist it stays downstairs so he is around with us. I might even join in !!

    xxx

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