Partners of people with aspergers

He tells me that I’m stupid and I don’t understand and that I make him worse, he blames me for things that have nothing to do with me and tries to manipulate a lot of things that go wrong for him by turning things round to make it seem like it’s my fault. He can also be extremely aggressive and blames his aspergers on not being able to calm down 

I’m really struggling to work out whether his behaviour is his aspergers or whether he’s just being horrible if that makes sense 

I’m really struggling to work out whether his behaviour is his aspergers or whether he’s just being horrible if that makes sense