Published on 12, July, 2020
my girlfriend well I think she is has had a meltdown freak out shut down what ever you want to call it, we have only been together 5 months and it was perfect. no fights no falling out just bliss happiness and love, the last few weeks she's been getting colder and colder so asked if we was ok as not cuddled kissed in days phone calls were shorter or not happening then I noticed her personal care was dropping she just said she wasn't feeling well and she was happy with me. then 11 days ago she calls me up screaming I can't do this anymore I'm going to lose my kids we are done I'm sorry I need space my dad's going to have to look after me, I turned and looked at my mate because we was playing the Xbox "dude you hear that wtf" I called back no answer. I must of called about 10 times the next day and the next following days nothing left it 4 days nothing,so last night I bought a gift and wrote her a letter today the police turn up and tell me to back off she will be in touch when she wants. only problem with that I'm stuck with no car as that was at hers as she borrowed it. I've got she'd loads of her stuff at mine a holiday booked in 12 days and she owes me money as well. please I really do love this girl but how can I get through to her we need to talk. I don't know if we are together or not I'm a mess?
For Narcisistic Supply
I googled this and had a read as I'd never heard the term 'love bombing' before. Seriously! why would someone want to do that to someone?!
I like your humour but no nothing like that
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a part from her kids yes very much so
Sounds like you got ‘Love Bombed’ by a Narcissistic.
There’s loads of info on love bombing if you search. It’s easy to spot from the outside looking in but impossible to spot for the person being Bombed.
Did she put you on a pedastall and treat you like the most adorable thing in the universe and make time for you constantly as if you were the only thing that mattered?
I am new to all this, I thought she has had a breakdown or overload. I would just like to holder close kiss her head and tell her I'm here waiting take as long as you need
Ok so this is new territory for you. It sounds as if she may have had some kind of breakdown maybe. Whatever it is she obviously needs time and space to sort it out in her own head. It’s bad for you as you clearly thought that you were in a happy, loving relationship together, but something has happened, in her head, that she needs to deal with on her own
no
Do you have ASD yourself?
so do I, that's why I was trying to contact her to help but I can't do right for doing wrong
I can’t say how long you should give her to get in touch. But, I do know that if I’d properly freaked out and didn’t want someone to contact me then I would absolutely not want that person contacting me.
my melt downs usually only last a few hours (for some people it can be a few days) and involve crying/screaming/shouting then needing to be on my own for an hour or two to calm down then finding something to do to distract myself. Everyone is different but it sounds like there’s a bit more going on than a meltdown
her son is going through problems and needs diagnosing.. I will stop the calls because I have too, what I don't want to do is give up after one meltdown but how long is reasonable for me to say enough is enough it's dead she's not been in touch
That’s not very understanding of them! I know it’s difficult but you’re going to have to stop calling her and her dad. She’s obviously got stuff going on at the moment, I don’t know what that is.
already asked they said give her space and time and she will get in touch at some point. I don't care about the stuff it's her and her kids I want to be with. if we had been fight I could get it but this is messing me up. i called her dad or and he's not called so I know something is up
It sounds like you are quite confused by her behaviour. Maybe she has had a break down of some description? As hard as it is you are going to have to respect her wishes and leave her alone, especially now she has involved the police. However, on a practical level you do need to get your car back, as you have no way of knowing when or if she will contact you I would suggest that you phone the police station tomorrow and explain that you have been asked to leave her alone but please can they retrieve your car, this is a reasonable request and I don’t see why they wouldn’t arrange that for you.
That's something only you can reasonably determine.
they aren't interested, just said give her space. I think I will just give her space but how long before I have to call a day on it, I'm not bothered about the holiday or car money it's her I'm worried about I bloody love her. I should of read up more but we talked about feelings all the time so didn't
The police have told you to back off, so it's probably best to go through them.