Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
i am’posting as i need advice on how to help my daughter. She’s always been a difficult character and as she’s getting older her behaviour is becoming more difficult. She’s now 11 and has settled I to secondary quite well and has no behaviour issues at school. She’s also pretty bright. I have read up over the years and I do feel she has Aspergers. She has a very negative outlook and lots of OCD tendencies, and sensory issues. We had success with CBT counselling before she started at Secondary school to help with the transition and this was a great help. She needs more help via CBT and we were on a waiting list and at the last minute the conselling was cancelled due to resource problems. I have been looking for help and have a tonne of websites to read through but I hope another parent with a similar situation may be able to advise me the best place to start.
She has had a CAHMS assessment who say she doesn’t have mental health issues and we are on a waiting list for a community paediatrician appointment to discuss sleep anxiety and a melatonin prescription.
I wonder how a proper diagnosis could help her in the future, someone also suggested oppositional defiance as a possible issue.
My main concern is dealing with her behaviour which is becoming very challenging and hurtful towards me, she’s causing me anxiety each day as I hope if she starts something that it won’t escalate. I am at my wits end with her.
She hasn’t made any new’friends At secondary school and I make every effort to help her to engage and do things but she doesn’t want to make effort to make friends and becomes negative that others leave her’out. So any advice on best way to deal with her negative behaviour and how to help her make friends.
Advice on how to go about getting a diagnosis - I am not sure that she could cope with a diagnosis or to be told she may be on the spectrum so this in itself worries me.
Where we can get support for the family’in How to deal’with her and help her be the best she can.
This is a lot to read so if you have thanks so much !
Mum in need of help !
This is me!!!High function but OCD and challenging and hurtful behaviour constantly also high anxiety. We got a diagnosis this January and secondary school Sept how are things for you two years on?