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Help School trip to France/school not keen/ son aged 11 and has some issues with anger management

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My son is in Year 6 and due to go to France for 5 days with his class. He has been diagnosed with autism but more towards the old Aspergers diagnosis. He mainly has issues with his anger when he doesn’t understand or things don’t go the way he expects. He is desperate to go on the trip but his school are now seeming reluctant and have suggested that a parent may have to go. We asked months ago to make sure support was in place. Has anyone dealt with a situation like this? Where do we stand etc?

  • I'm sorry about your son; sadly, he can't control his emotions. But I still do not think it is such an obvious problem, because if you are worried about him not being able to travel to France, take him to see some countries yourself. After all, it would be cool, and your son will love to visit different places of interest or admire the scenery. If I were you, I would go to Germany, because it is gorgeous there now. Especially if you travel by train, you can admire the beautiful view from your window. The main thing, always have at hand the schedule oebbfahrplan.com to be convenient.

  • Thank you for reply.

    Just to give you the background he was due to go on a 2 day trip in the UK last year and after a couple of incidents they refused to take him. (one was a minor outburst with him getting frustrated and the second one involved a group of boys all fighting/messing on the playground and my son retaliated after being punched and kicked the boy back) this was the deemed the final straw as he had lots of warnings and they refused to take him and we lost half of the cost of the trip.

    We have wised up this year and when we received the letter about France responded advising that we weren’t paying anything until we received confirmation that additional support would be put in place and if we did pay and anything went wrong we wouldn’t loose any money. After chasing for this confirmation for that last couple of months we had a meeting with the head teacher and 2 of the teachers who would be going on the trip. Apparently, they have completed a risk assessment using Evolve and the main concern they have is that he might run away if and when he has a meltdown/gets frustrated. We pointed out that he doesn’t do this when we are out and about and at school they have a system in place where he has told to take himself to the office if he feels a situation escalating/getting too much for him. At this meeting they suggested a parent attending the trip with him at a cost to ourselves. The trip isn’t until June. He can go weeks without an outburst and I think a parent attending would upset him more and just highlight the fact that he is a bit different. I’m just after some advice as I have no idea where we stand but I know he would be fine. He has no support throughout the school day or any funding in place.