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nt partners of autistic/aspergers

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ive noticed in the few years ive researched autism/aspergers that tho there is a lot out there about familys, carers and parents of those with autism, not so much goes into the partners of adults with autism

our voice needs to be heard too and i as one of those people feel theres not a lot of options for me, i literally have to deal with it on my own

its a lot of stress and pressure to do the 'right thing' by my partner, when sometimes (a lot actually) that right thing usually means i have to just cope with and go through whatever it is, and try to come out the other side not completely mental

i do my best for my partner, and he does what he can too in his own way, but there are times i just dont know what to do, and times i cant

anyway, there you go, thats my pent up view on it for just now

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  • IntenseWorld said:

    I have AS and my husband is NT  I think there might be many ways that your husband puts you first that you don't realise because they are 'hidden'.  Does he do practical things and solve problems that need solving, that you might be less able to solve or not have the time, and take some weight off you like that?  Aspies are very logical and like solving problems, often with a really inventive way of thinking of solutions.  If you mull it over you may start to realise there are little hidden things where he makes things easier for you, even if it's unintentional and even if he doesn't express it.

    The beauty of the talents that Asperger's can bring shouldn't be underestimated.

    Sometimes, you need to step back to see what blessings there are to count.

    Hi IntenseWorld,

    Thanks for your comments. My Partner is the love of my life and has many more talents and positive attributes that he has difficulties, its just those difficulties take over sometimes when external factors are involved. Yes he is practical, logic and very creative and we have worked really hard to make thinks work and understand each other better, especially since the diagnosis.

    I really do count my blessings, I wouldn't change him for the world.




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  • IntenseWorld said:

    I have AS and my husband is NT  I think there might be many ways that your husband puts you first that you don't realise because they are 'hidden'.  Does he do practical things and solve problems that need solving, that you might be less able to solve or not have the time, and take some weight off you like that?  Aspies are very logical and like solving problems, often with a really inventive way of thinking of solutions.  If you mull it over you may start to realise there are little hidden things where he makes things easier for you, even if it's unintentional and even if he doesn't express it.

    The beauty of the talents that Asperger's can bring shouldn't be underestimated.

    Sometimes, you need to step back to see what blessings there are to count.

    Hi IntenseWorld,

    Thanks for your comments. My Partner is the love of my life and has many more talents and positive attributes that he has difficulties, its just those difficulties take over sometimes when external factors are involved. Yes he is practical, logic and very creative and we have worked really hard to make thinks work and understand each other better, especially since the diagnosis.

    I really do count my blessings, I wouldn't change him for the world.




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