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My son speaks to me in a nasty way.

IcedBaileys

Hello all.  This is my first post. 

My son has Aspergers and he is 6 1/2 years old.  My main issue with him at the moment is how he speaks to me and close friends and family. 

He seems to just snap at everything, the moment something is not quite as he wants it to be or if I ask him something, he just seems to speak in a nasty fashion.  I dont mean he swears at me, his voice is angry and he will growl. 

He is not like this at school, so it just seems to be how he is at home with me and his Dad, Grandma and Uncle and a few close friends.

I tell him to not speak like that, but I just feel over the years I have said that to him a thousand times.  I'm just not sure what action to take or how to try and make him understand that it is not nice.

It is not like he stays in a mood all day or for long, he will have his nasty moment and then be happy again, while I'm still left feeling hurt about how he was.

Any advice would be much appreciated, or even someone saying they have the same thing with there child.

I just feel so miserable right now, and if I'm honest ashamed of how he can be and how I appear to let him be, but I just don't know what to do.

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  • Hi, me again.  Just another thought.  My son has found keeping a private journal a great way to get rid of his frustrations.  He started writing it and adding a few stick men pictures and now opts for stick men pictures on all entries with speech bubbles - along the lines of comic strip conversations which can be great for a lot of kids with ASD.  Anything is worth a try. 

    There is also a great book called A Volcano in my Tummy by Eliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney.  I was not too sure about all this anger management stuff to begin with but actually it is great.  It helps give them the tools to survive when in vulnerable situations such as being teased for example. It is aimed at teachers but can easily be adapted to use at home.  It has little excercises you can do together or you could just pick out the bits you like and want to try.  Not sure if they have it in the NAS library or if you have a CHIP+ near you.   

    Hope things have got a bit easier for you.

     

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  • Hi, me again.  Just another thought.  My son has found keeping a private journal a great way to get rid of his frustrations.  He started writing it and adding a few stick men pictures and now opts for stick men pictures on all entries with speech bubbles - along the lines of comic strip conversations which can be great for a lot of kids with ASD.  Anything is worth a try. 

    There is also a great book called A Volcano in my Tummy by Eliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney.  I was not too sure about all this anger management stuff to begin with but actually it is great.  It helps give them the tools to survive when in vulnerable situations such as being teased for example. It is aimed at teachers but can easily be adapted to use at home.  It has little excercises you can do together or you could just pick out the bits you like and want to try.  Not sure if they have it in the NAS library or if you have a CHIP+ near you.   

    Hope things have got a bit easier for you.

     

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