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My son speaks to me in a nasty way.

IcedBaileys

Hello all.  This is my first post. 

My son has Aspergers and he is 6 1/2 years old.  My main issue with him at the moment is how he speaks to me and close friends and family. 

He seems to just snap at everything, the moment something is not quite as he wants it to be or if I ask him something, he just seems to speak in a nasty fashion.  I dont mean he swears at me, his voice is angry and he will growl. 

He is not like this at school, so it just seems to be how he is at home with me and his Dad, Grandma and Uncle and a few close friends.

I tell him to not speak like that, but I just feel over the years I have said that to him a thousand times.  I'm just not sure what action to take or how to try and make him understand that it is not nice.

It is not like he stays in a mood all day or for long, he will have his nasty moment and then be happy again, while I'm still left feeling hurt about how he was.

Any advice would be much appreciated, or even someone saying they have the same thing with there child.

I just feel so miserable right now, and if I'm honest ashamed of how he can be and how I appear to let him be, but I just don't know what to do.

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  • I can totally understand what you are going through. It is very often hard not get upset when all you are trying to do is help them. My son is often horrible to me. I seem to get blamed for everything that goes wrong and am spoken to in a horrible way sometimes. He is only 5 but his anger towards me is sometimes disturbing, although I try not to take it to heart. I totally agree though, that he does it to me more as I am the one closest to him and it is safer for him to vent his frustration with me. I have also noticed that my son has started whispering to himself and the things he is saying under his breath are not very nice! Which is a bit of a worry. I have been reading people's advice and will try to use some of the methods with my son. I am glad you posted this discussion as it will help me too! Hope everything goes well with you.

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  • I can totally understand what you are going through. It is very often hard not get upset when all you are trying to do is help them. My son is often horrible to me. I seem to get blamed for everything that goes wrong and am spoken to in a horrible way sometimes. He is only 5 but his anger towards me is sometimes disturbing, although I try not to take it to heart. I totally agree though, that he does it to me more as I am the one closest to him and it is safer for him to vent his frustration with me. I have also noticed that my son has started whispering to himself and the things he is saying under his breath are not very nice! Which is a bit of a worry. I have been reading people's advice and will try to use some of the methods with my son. I am glad you posted this discussion as it will help me too! Hope everything goes well with you.

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