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My son speaks to me in a nasty way.

IcedBaileys

Hello all.  This is my first post. 

My son has Aspergers and he is 6 1/2 years old.  My main issue with him at the moment is how he speaks to me and close friends and family. 

He seems to just snap at everything, the moment something is not quite as he wants it to be or if I ask him something, he just seems to speak in a nasty fashion.  I dont mean he swears at me, his voice is angry and he will growl. 

He is not like this at school, so it just seems to be how he is at home with me and his Dad, Grandma and Uncle and a few close friends.

I tell him to not speak like that, but I just feel over the years I have said that to him a thousand times.  I'm just not sure what action to take or how to try and make him understand that it is not nice.

It is not like he stays in a mood all day or for long, he will have his nasty moment and then be happy again, while I'm still left feeling hurt about how he was.

Any advice would be much appreciated, or even someone saying they have the same thing with there child.

I just feel so miserable right now, and if I'm honest ashamed of how he can be and how I appear to let him be, but I just don't know what to do.

Iced

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Our son is 9 with Aspergers and we have similar outbursts after coping with the stress of school, particularly as unsupported currently.  We have been battling with swearing for about 8 weeks now which was picked up in the playground.  We were advised to write a family list of angry words we could use and demonstrate to our son the difference in how they can be said softly or angrily.  Drat, double drat and blast are some of ours. 

    We decided on the list together and it is up on the fridge door and we all use these words and put a lot of passion into it and it seems to be working.  Previously we had been saying you must not say xyz but the focus actually needed to be on what he can say and do when full of frustration and anger as a release.  This approach is making a real difference and we only started a couple of days ago. 

    Good luck

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  • Our son is 9 with Aspergers and we have similar outbursts after coping with the stress of school, particularly as unsupported currently.  We have been battling with swearing for about 8 weeks now which was picked up in the playground.  We were advised to write a family list of angry words we could use and demonstrate to our son the difference in how they can be said softly or angrily.  Drat, double drat and blast are some of ours. 

    We decided on the list together and it is up on the fridge door and we all use these words and put a lot of passion into it and it seems to be working.  Previously we had been saying you must not say xyz but the focus actually needed to be on what he can say and do when full of frustration and anger as a release.  This approach is making a real difference and we only started a couple of days ago. 

    Good luck

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