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My son speaks to me in a nasty way.

IcedBaileys

Hello all.  This is my first post. 

My son has Aspergers and he is 6 1/2 years old.  My main issue with him at the moment is how he speaks to me and close friends and family. 

He seems to just snap at everything, the moment something is not quite as he wants it to be or if I ask him something, he just seems to speak in a nasty fashion.  I dont mean he swears at me, his voice is angry and he will growl. 

He is not like this at school, so it just seems to be how he is at home with me and his Dad, Grandma and Uncle and a few close friends.

I tell him to not speak like that, but I just feel over the years I have said that to him a thousand times.  I'm just not sure what action to take or how to try and make him understand that it is not nice.

It is not like he stays in a mood all day or for long, he will have his nasty moment and then be happy again, while I'm still left feeling hurt about how he was.

Any advice would be much appreciated, or even someone saying they have the same thing with there child.

I just feel so miserable right now, and if I'm honest ashamed of how he can be and how I appear to let him be, but I just don't know what to do.

Iced

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Hello Iced

    I have been working with children and young ASD adults since the early 80's and am now carer to my 5 year old aspie grandson.
    He too loses his temper, growls, shouts, hits when angry or frustrated.
    He still does this outside the home but not to the extremes I see at home. This is i feel bcause at home he can be himself, he is safe to let go of the frustrations and stresses his Aspergers causes him. He is still young and not fully in control of his world, this causes him anxiety, frustration and more.
    I know he does not mean what he says and that he is not personally directing his ire at me, i am however his safe person so who better to test himself on?
    I tend to sit quietly or leave the room without responding until he has calmed down, then we discuss briefly whatever his problem was.
    As he gets older he is learning better ways to cope with his outbursts, but as we all know Rome was not built in a day lol.... 
    I play him Children's meditation and relaxation tapes when he goes to bed, it has been 2 months and he is gradually beginning to remember some of the words and techniques he hears on the CD's, anything that helps to calm his mind can only help.

    Amazon have quite a good selection, you may like to take a look.

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  • Hello Iced

    I have been working with children and young ASD adults since the early 80's and am now carer to my 5 year old aspie grandson.
    He too loses his temper, growls, shouts, hits when angry or frustrated.
    He still does this outside the home but not to the extremes I see at home. This is i feel bcause at home he can be himself, he is safe to let go of the frustrations and stresses his Aspergers causes him. He is still young and not fully in control of his world, this causes him anxiety, frustration and more.
    I know he does not mean what he says and that he is not personally directing his ire at me, i am however his safe person so who better to test himself on?
    I tend to sit quietly or leave the room without responding until he has calmed down, then we discuss briefly whatever his problem was.
    As he gets older he is learning better ways to cope with his outbursts, but as we all know Rome was not built in a day lol.... 
    I play him Children's meditation and relaxation tapes when he goes to bed, it has been 2 months and he is gradually beginning to remember some of the words and techniques he hears on the CD's, anything that helps to calm his mind can only help.

    Amazon have quite a good selection, you may like to take a look.

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