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My son speaks to me in a nasty way.

IcedBaileys

Hello all.  This is my first post. 

My son has Aspergers and he is 6 1/2 years old.  My main issue with him at the moment is how he speaks to me and close friends and family. 

He seems to just snap at everything, the moment something is not quite as he wants it to be or if I ask him something, he just seems to speak in a nasty fashion.  I dont mean he swears at me, his voice is angry and he will growl. 

He is not like this at school, so it just seems to be how he is at home with me and his Dad, Grandma and Uncle and a few close friends.

I tell him to not speak like that, but I just feel over the years I have said that to him a thousand times.  I'm just not sure what action to take or how to try and make him understand that it is not nice.

It is not like he stays in a mood all day or for long, he will have his nasty moment and then be happy again, while I'm still left feeling hurt about how he was.

Any advice would be much appreciated, or even someone saying they have the same thing with there child.

I just feel so miserable right now, and if I'm honest ashamed of how he can be and how I appear to let him be, but I just don't know what to do.

Iced

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Are you using any non-visual communication?  Not because your son 'can't' talk, but because non-verbal might be easier for him to understand.

    I have a fan with 3 smile faces I use with my child, it works both ways and we can show each other the relevant face (sad, straight and happy) to show how we feel.  Perhaps your son needs some help to understand that what he says makes you sad.

    Also a reward chart can be good, carry it everywhere and put happy or sad faces on it at regular intervals.  It is important to record the happy times as well as the sad, or it's not a 'reward' chart but a 'punishment' chart.

    School and clubs etc need to do the same.

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  • Are you using any non-visual communication?  Not because your son 'can't' talk, but because non-verbal might be easier for him to understand.

    I have a fan with 3 smile faces I use with my child, it works both ways and we can show each other the relevant face (sad, straight and happy) to show how we feel.  Perhaps your son needs some help to understand that what he says makes you sad.

    Also a reward chart can be good, carry it everywhere and put happy or sad faces on it at regular intervals.  It is important to record the happy times as well as the sad, or it's not a 'reward' chart but a 'punishment' chart.

    School and clubs etc need to do the same.

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