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ever feel like just running away..

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do you ever just look at your child and think why you?! I can’t stop crying whenever I look at her & it’s killing me I just feel so sorry for her I’m anxious about how she will be when she’s growing up and how other kids will be with her as they can be so cruel. Im not in denial by any means as I always had that mothers instinct that there was something but now more and more people are noticing (which is fine) but it’s when they say ‘awww that’s a shame’ it sets me off. Doesn’t help that her father is ignoring everything that’s been told he just thinks she’s slower.. so I need to watch what I say and respect his feelings, along with coming to terms with it all myself - debating whether I should move her to a ESN Nursery or keep her where she is becaue she is settled ... I feel like I’m just not far off exploding!! I’m so sorry for the long rant..

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  • As another autistic adult, Starbuck has it right. :)

    Yes, school is sometimes horrible because of the reaction of other children, but personally (although I was bullied to the point of being seriously depressed and there are a lot of things about my schooling that were handled very poorly at the time) I also have some great memories of school. My best friend, whom I met at 10, is still my best friend at nearly 30! There are good eggs out there and hopefully your daughter will attract a couple; Autistic people often have an awful lot to offer as companions, to the right people. 

    Re. Nursery and general "SEN vs mainstream schooling", I would advise you to follow her lead. There are advantages and disadvantages to both, but if she is settled now I would leave it as it is for the time being. You can always change later if it stops being a viable option. 

    Do try to ignore the pity party; they haven't the first idea about what autism actually is and just buy into the (irritatingly negative/demeaning) media portrayal through lack of knowledge to the contrary. Those with experience know better. 

    Keep supporting her and keep using the forums whenever you need to; it's a great source of information and support for you both!

    You sound like you're on the right track. :) 

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  • As another autistic adult, Starbuck has it right. :)

    Yes, school is sometimes horrible because of the reaction of other children, but personally (although I was bullied to the point of being seriously depressed and there are a lot of things about my schooling that were handled very poorly at the time) I also have some great memories of school. My best friend, whom I met at 10, is still my best friend at nearly 30! There are good eggs out there and hopefully your daughter will attract a couple; Autistic people often have an awful lot to offer as companions, to the right people. 

    Re. Nursery and general "SEN vs mainstream schooling", I would advise you to follow her lead. There are advantages and disadvantages to both, but if she is settled now I would leave it as it is for the time being. You can always change later if it stops being a viable option. 

    Do try to ignore the pity party; they haven't the first idea about what autism actually is and just buy into the (irritatingly negative/demeaning) media portrayal through lack of knowledge to the contrary. Those with experience know better. 

    Keep supporting her and keep using the forums whenever you need to; it's a great source of information and support for you both!

    You sound like you're on the right track. :) 

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