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Meltdown or tantrum?

NAS39316

My daughter is 7, we are currently going through the assessments so no formal diagnosis yet. 

Recently her behaviour is getting pretty bad at home, I’m struggling to tell if these are meltdowns or just tantrums. Usually her triggers are fairly obvious however at the moment they all seem to be caused by her not getting her own way or having to change games etc to accommodate her sisters wants. 

I don’t know if I should be disciplining this sort of behaviour or not. I don’t want to make her feel bad for something she can’t control but equally I don’t want her thinking it’s ok to throw wooden broom sticks at people because they want to play something different! 

Any advice?

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  • I have exactly the same problem! My daughter is 7 with no diagnosis yet her sister is 6 and the arguments and meltdowns are getting horrific to the point of her hurting her sister I spend most of my home life feeling like a referee not a mum.

    I have noticed a difference between some of the tantrums these one are totally out of control even she doesn't realise what she is doing these are generally triggered by the little one interfering with her repeatedly skipping across the room. These ones I have to separate them until it passes 

    Argument over telly when she is shouting and screaming that she is disciplined for as she is aware of her behaviour 

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  • I have exactly the same problem! My daughter is 7 with no diagnosis yet her sister is 6 and the arguments and meltdowns are getting horrific to the point of her hurting her sister I spend most of my home life feeling like a referee not a mum.

    I have noticed a difference between some of the tantrums these one are totally out of control even she doesn't realise what she is doing these are generally triggered by the little one interfering with her repeatedly skipping across the room. These ones I have to separate them until it passes 

    Argument over telly when she is shouting and screaming that she is disciplined for as she is aware of her behaviour 

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  • in reply to NAS39248

    In a weird way it’s nice to hear I’m not alone! I’m finding it hard to tell when she is aware of behaviour or not as it’s 0-100 very quickly.

    i hear a lot of “it’s not fair” when it’s her sisters turn for something or she has to share. It’s also not fair that her sister has to march to her beat. I feel like whatever I do one of them will be wronged.