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Daughters sudden irrational fear of school toilet

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Hi 

I know this is quite a strange one but my 7yr old (awaiting diagnosis)  has suddenly refused to use the toilet at school. It started when her year 3 ones were out of order so she had to use year 6 ones she refused to do this as it was not right as she was in year 3, that I understood (sort of) but now she says she can't go in the normal ones as they might break this has led to several near misses last week as it's a long walk home and yesterday the poor girl actually tried to go but ended up having an accident which really upset her. Luckily it was at the end of the day so other children didnt notice we all know how cruel they can be. But she still had to walk home in wet clothes, which led to 4 hours of crying. I hate seeing her this upset does anyone have any tips on overcoming this fear as I'm at a loss 

Thank you and sorry for the rambling 

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  • It's not unusual my 7 year old with a diagnosis did this last year but for similar reasons - there was a fan that made a noise, a leaky pipe, had to use different toilets when they were being repaired etc. Being a boy he held on all day and then embarassingly would run off to wee in a lay by where we were parked - and the residents around the school complain about the cars!!! We spoke to the class teacher and TA who used to remind him to go and accompany him to the toilet.  It turned out he liked using the toilets that he used in reception and year 1 probably because they were the most familiar so they let him use those, so perhaps your daughter has a favourite toilet.  It did pass and now he has moved classes he happily uses the one he is supposed to. The school should be understanding and willing to help because its such a small adjustment to make to ensure she is comfortable and able to learn.  Good luck

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  • It's not unusual my 7 year old with a diagnosis did this last year but for similar reasons - there was a fan that made a noise, a leaky pipe, had to use different toilets when they were being repaired etc. Being a boy he held on all day and then embarassingly would run off to wee in a lay by where we were parked - and the residents around the school complain about the cars!!! We spoke to the class teacher and TA who used to remind him to go and accompany him to the toilet.  It turned out he liked using the toilets that he used in reception and year 1 probably because they were the most familiar so they let him use those, so perhaps your daughter has a favourite toilet.  It did pass and now he has moved classes he happily uses the one he is supposed to. The school should be understanding and willing to help because its such a small adjustment to make to ensure she is comfortable and able to learn.  Good luck

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