We are really struggling with the ongoing situation with our adult son (23), in which he seems so withdrawn from everything that he is very hard to reach, has no friends or contacts, no outside interests, and spends most of his time online, alone in his room.
He refuses all offers of support or help, especially local NHS services which have failed to help in the past, and, since he has capacity and is making autonomous decisions in these matters, it seems there is little we can do but support him. Is there any help we can access, private, NHS or in the voluntary sector that would give us more idea on how to handle things for the best? We've had counselling, also talked to various CPNs and medics over the years (when our son was actually willing to involve them) but none of this actually led to anything. It felt very much as though these professionals could only empathise with us and express their hope that our son would gain more "insight" or start to engage more, whilst not giving us any idea as to how to encourage this process. Would a coach with some expertise in Asperger's be of any more help? To me it feels as though empathy and the expressions of hope merely grate because we what we actually need is specific, tailored advice and guidance.
