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It's getting worse

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My son is 12 he goes to a mainstream school but talks to no one and has zero friends. The only friend he had he has now lost. On break times and lunch he is on his own he walks to school and leaves at the last minute so he can walk straight in without having to stand alone . Academically he is very bright but he is becoming more withdrawn and anxious. Every time I try and talk to him he shuts down and gets annoyed as dosent want to discuss with anyone, I have even suggested a counsellor but no.

i have spoken to senco at school etc so many times but there's only so much they can do as they can't force him to make or keep a friend etc.

Through  the week he just comes home, sits on iPad then bed and that's his life.

It's  only me and my son I have no extended family and he literally only has me in his life. I am worried for his future when I am no longer around.

I hope someone can read and offer advice in any way, I have to find support for my own sanity.I feel I am the only one, so isolated and it's getting me more down by the minute.

There isn't much about when I have looked online, and I am at a loss what to do

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  • Not sure what to advise, but I'm sure your son will find friends, if he struggles with social interactions- maybe focus on helping him with that.
    Rather than talking about the loss of his friend, which he understandably would just get annoyed about. "I've lost my friend, I can't do anything. Why is my mum pestering me to talk about it." 

    That or be a little more direct, and approach differently: "Do you still want this person as your friend?"   
    Yes: give him advise on how to go about fixing whatever happened (probably as easy as a 'sorry can we be friends again.' - it was when i was that age.)
    No: "Then maybe you should make different friends, and do this. (give instructions on how to do that.)

    If he's autistic, he probably doesn't want the pointless conversation of feelings he can't describe very well. I'd think he just wants to be sure of what he wants to do, then know how to do it.

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  • Not sure what to advise, but I'm sure your son will find friends, if he struggles with social interactions- maybe focus on helping him with that.
    Rather than talking about the loss of his friend, which he understandably would just get annoyed about. "I've lost my friend, I can't do anything. Why is my mum pestering me to talk about it." 

    That or be a little more direct, and approach differently: "Do you still want this person as your friend?"   
    Yes: give him advise on how to go about fixing whatever happened (probably as easy as a 'sorry can we be friends again.' - it was when i was that age.)
    No: "Then maybe you should make different friends, and do this. (give instructions on how to do that.)

    If he's autistic, he probably doesn't want the pointless conversation of feelings he can't describe very well. I'd think he just wants to be sure of what he wants to do, then know how to do it.

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